Tips for Coping

Siblings, Most adults too  often do fight for a number of reasons.
-They fight because they want a parent’s or other person’s attention, especially where the parent has only so much time, attention and patience to give.
-They fight because they are selfish, jealous: “He got a new bike. I didn’t. They must love him more than they love me.”
-They even fight over ordinary teasing which is a way of testing the effects of behavior and words on another person: “He called me…” “But she called me…first.”
-They fight because they are growing up in a competitive, aggressive, self centered, worldly, dog eat dog,   society that falsely teaches them that to get it, to win is to be better than to be the loser. “I saw it first.” “I beat you to the water.”

Lessons about jealousy, competition, sharing and kindness are difficult to learn, and, indeed, even many adults still still haven’t learned them. Too many adolescent may not recognize, admit still  their needs or may be too embarrassed to express them verbally, so their ongoing fighting with siblings, others is a way to get their need personal  attention which often next  actually increase in adolescence life.

A Parent’s Checklist
As a parent, do you:
-Set aside some time to be alone with each child?
-Recognize that each child is different?
-Make sure your adolescents realize they are each unique and have a special set of strengths?
-Praise adolescents for being who they are and not just for what they can do?
-Avoid initiating competition among children?
-Realize adolescents and younger children need to be given the right also to decide not to share at least some of the time?
-Be sure older children are not usually forced to give in to younger ones because “he’s little” or “she doesn’t know better?”
-Talk positively to the adolescents about their fighting?
-Falsely encourage, promote the sibling fighting?



Resolving the Conflicts requires still :
Admitting, recognizing the stress issue.
Effectively dealing with the issue in a positive manner… For the matters left on their own to be resolved   tend to get worse and not better
The instinctive, natural way it seems is merely to immediacy, feel anger, to  express our anger and to to respond  immediately aggressively as well.. not much self control obvious.. as opposed to a planed, deliberate, calculated, thought our approach.
When you are angry, you probably feel:

muscle tension
accelerated heartbeat
a “knot” or “butterflies” in your stomach
changes in your breathing
goose bumps
flushed in the face

You can reduce the rush of adrenaline that’s responsible for your heart beating faster, your voice sounding louder, and your fists clenching if you:

Take a few slow, deep breaths and concentrate on your breathing.
Imagine yourself at a better place, the beach, by a lake, or anywhere that makes you feel calm and peaceful.
Try other thoughts or actions that have helped you relax in the past.

“Calm down.”
“I don’t need to prove myself.”
“I’m not going to let him/her get to me.”

This often Aggressive Anger is a  response to  our perceived threats; it inspires powerful, often visible  feelings and behaviors. But we can’t physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us; laws, social norms, and for most of us our own common sense places valid limits on how far our anger can take us.
Stop. Consider the consequences. Think before you act. Try to find positive or neutral explanations for what that person did that provoked you.  Learn to recognize what sets you off and how anger feels to you. Learn to think through the benefits of controlling your anger and the consequences of losing control. Control your own  behavior, don’t let anger control you.
Identify the problem, problem behavior. Isolate it from the emotions associated with it and evaluate it.  How often does it happen and how long can  it go on?  What is the purpose of the behavior? If it tears down another person, it is abusive.  If you suspect abuse, it’s important to act quickly to stop it. Do not hesitate to bring it into the open, to expose it next to all for what it really is, unacceptable abuse. Get enough fact and feeling information to assess the problem accurately. Restate the problem to make sure you understand it clearly. Figure out alternative solutions to the problem.

We face a choice  to deal with their angry feelings  such as expressing our anger, suppressing our outrage, and submissiveness, calming Ourselves, controlling our outward behavior, but also controlling our internal responses, taking steps to lower our heart rate, calm yourself down, and letting  the emotional feelings subside.

Assertiveness is expressing our anger in love ,without hurting others. Being assertive here doesn’t mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.

Anger turned inward may cause next  hypertension, high blood pressure,  a self pity complex, or depression.

” Unexpressed specific anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven’t learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren’t likely to have many successful relationships. “

Anger management  reducing  both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can’t always get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions, and express, act in a positive manner, for the good of all.

It’s best to find out what it is that triggers your anger, and then to develop strategies to deal with and to keep those triggers from tipping you over the edge. 

Remind yourself that merely getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won’t make you feel better (and may actually make you feel worse). You need to focus on the problem and deal with it effectively;

Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it’s justified, can quickly become irrational. So use cold hard logic, Such as ” you’re just experiencing some of the rough spots of daily life. Normal  people tend expect : fairness, appreciation, agreement, willingness, congenital agreements. The first best attitude to bring to such a problem situation, then, is not to focus on solely now finding the solution, but rather firstly on how you handle and face the problem.

Set ground rules to prevent emotional abuse, and stick to them. For example, make it clear you will not put up with name-calling, teasing, belittling, intimidating,   provoking, cheating, lying, stealing, bullying, physical abuses, intimidations and you will firmly deal with it too. Living with bad, fighting adolescent siblings is not pleasant. Clearly show all of the  adolescents the cost of fighting is higher than the falsely expected reward.
Next  tell of the trouble makers, bad adolescents that while it’s normal to have disagreements, the constant fighting upsets you  and you  value peace at home. You also can  can say they will no longer be the judge and jury over the siblings’, adolescents  disputes, wars  and you merely will not stand for it, put up with it and stand by the resolution with firm action!
Timing: use a controlled, well thought out  response to Control the event on your own time, and don’t merely be hastily suckered into facing, dealing with it unprepared. Also now do Give yourself a regular break from the conflicts, stressful situations. Make sure always too you have some “personal time” scheduled for times of the day, the place  that you know are particularly stressful.  One’s Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you feel angry at the set “trap” you seem again to have fallen into and all the people and things that form that trap. Sometimes it’s our unavoidable immediate surroundings that give us continual, ongoing, unavoidable  cause for irritation and fury. If need be do next Remove yourself permanently from the environment, for your own good health firstly . One does not have to put with with these mostly false conflicts forever.
Set clear consequences for broken rules.  What will happen if they break the rules? For example, one husband told his wife he would no longer spoil his wife, indulge in all of her false whims, desires, but would not merely give her two  alternative choices beforehand, one would lead to a reward, one whole lead to negative personal consequences for her.  Choice one – resolve the conflicts peacefully, amiably.  Or if she continued to cause false problems, fighting he would merely fire her, terminate the relationship, divorce the marriage. He next  was forced to take the second alternative.
“One father reported that every time a fight started, he would say to his adolescents, “You’re fighting. I’m leaving.” And then he would go out to work in the yard or take a drive or run an errand — but he simply walked away from the fighting. A mother used a similar tactic. When the fighting began, she said, “Call me when it’s over.” Then she went to her bedroom, slamming the door to emphasize her point. Another parent made his adolescents leave the house when they began fighting. “

In each of these cases, the parents, adolescents  demonstrated that their ongoing fighting would not get their attention and they would not get involved in the fight.
Do not hesitate to Remove yourself  from the problem behavioral  person, or remove the root cause of the problem child , adult

The angered people tend to jump to-and act on-conclusions, and some of those conclusions can be very inaccurate. The first thing to do if you’re in a heated discussion is slow down and think through your responses. Don’t say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.  Listen, too, to what is underlying cause of your  anger. It’s natural to get defensive when you’re criticized, but don’t fight back. Instead, listen to what’s underlying the words: the message that this person might feel neglected and unloved. It may take a lot of patient questioning on your part, and it may require some breathing space, but don’t let your anger-or a partner’s-let a discussion spin out of control. Keeping your cool can keep the situation from becoming a disastrous one.

Instead of doing nothing, which postpones the inevitable anyway. Seek, get sound advice, the valid  opinion of others too. Make a plan, and check your progress along the way. Resolve to give it your best, but also not to punish yourself if an answer doesn’t come right away. If you can approach the conflicts, fight  it with your best intentions and efforts and make a serious attempt to face it head-on, you will be less likely to lose patience and fall into all-or-nothing thinking, even if the problem does not get solved right away.

Remember, you can’t eliminate anger-and it wouldn’t be a good idea if you could. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you anger; and sometimes it will be justifiable anger. Life will be filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can’t change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. Controlling effectively your angry responses can keep them from making you even more unhappy in the long run. 
Negative Results of unchecked Sibling Rivalry or Sibling Abuse : Thousands of adult survivors of sibling abuse can readily tell of the far-reaching negative effects that such unchecked behavior has had on them as children and even as adults. For instance, one person, reflecting back on their relationship with   a brother wrote: “I believed EVERYTHING my brother told me. Even if it was lies to make himself look better.  Children and adults often still do wrongfully abuse a brother or sister  to falsely try to  gain power and control.

Hey it is just classical psychology   that If you notice the following warning signs in a person  over a period of time, the potential for increased unacceptable physical  violence by them next also exists:

a history of aggressive, abnormal, offensive behavior
serious drug or alcohol abuse
gang membership or strong desire to be accepted by the gang, to be in a gang
threatening others regularly
trouble controlling feelings like anger
withdrawal from good friends and from the normal, usual, acceptable  activities
visibly feeling rejected or alone
having been a victim of bullying, or now being a bully themselves
poor school or job performance
history of discipline problems or frequent run-ins with authority
feeling constantly disrespected
failing to acknowledge the feelings  rights of others

or failing to acknowledge  the abuse of others

access to or fascination with weapons, especially guns

When you recognize these unacceptable future increased violence warning signs in someone else deal with it.   Hoping that someone else will deal with the situation is still false way out.

Be safe. Don’t spend time alone with people who show any of these warning signs and  remove the person from the situation that’s setting them off.

The most important thing to remember is don’t go it alone. Expose the matter to others as well.

Even verbal abuse left unchecked, unrestrained next tends to escalate and leads to real, unacceptable physical abuses.

11 Tips for Coping with Personal unresolved Stress
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference
Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy;
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.
The prayers of Saint Francis of Assisi
1. First Concentrate on the present.   You cannot change the past, but you can work on having a better future
Don’t needlessly, continually  dwell on the past or worry about a future you cannot control. Have a positive and not a a negative, defeatist attitude now as well
2. Consider, Admit and deal with  your  past, present  problems one at a time.  First personally define, Write down those things that Bother you, do Number them, and do decide what you can and cannot do abut  them too . Prioritize as well Decide which ones are still important and which ones are no longer important to deal with.
If there are lots of items  you want to change, start by focusing on one or two of the most bothersome or dangerous ones. Don’t try to make too many changes all at once. Don’t merely lump your complaints,  problems together, it can make them seem overwhelming.
Anger and aggression are different. Anger is a temporary emotional state caused by frustration; while aggression is often an attempt to hurt a person or to destroy property.
Anger and aggression do not have to be dirty words. We must be careful to tell the difference between behavior that indicates emotional problems and behavior that is normal. Convert aggression to assertiveness, actions done in love as well.
**Writing. There is evidence that writing about stressful events and circumstances may help relieve stress and improve diseases linked to stress.  Write for 10 to 15 minutes a day about an unresolved stressful events and how you felt. One way to use writing to deal with stress is to keep a stressed out journal. This can really help you identify the sources of stress in your life so that you can find better ways to cope with them. 
3. Take positive action.  Do review all of your options, such as writing a letter of complaint to the right party, in detail reporting the matter so you do not have to have it repeated on you.
Make sure you have realistic expectations, goals, approaches too. Once you’ve decided what you want to do about a problem, act consistently quickly ,  firmly and follow up on it too.
4. Don’t   merely complain about your problems . Continually complaining is wasteful, and seriously for a stat don’t expect only others alone to resolve them, deal with them yourself .
Talk things over with your family and good friends. Look for the positive, possible, practical  solutions.
5. Occupy yourself and your mind.  Determine what you can and cannot do, how much time you should spend on it, also do go on with your life
Social interaction, alternative activities can help during a time of stress by not continually focusing on the problem
*Doing something you enjoy. A meaningful activity helps relieve stress, tension. This can be a hobby, such as gardening; a creative activity, such as writing, crafts, or art; or doing volunteer work for a cause that benefits others. Playing with and caring for pets also can help you relax. Although you may feel that you are too busy, making time to do something you like can help you relax and make you more productive in other areas of your life. 

Good Music therapy can relax your body, improve your mood, and change the pace of your day.   

Good Humor therapy Clean Jokes, Comedy, are becoming widely accepted as a tool for reducing stress and boosting the body’s immune system.
6. Don’t just blame the other people for your problems and their failure at  Resolving them – be an active part of the solution yourself if need be
Frustrated hostility will accomplish nothing and can only make and feel worse.
7. Exercise every day.
Go for a walk and concentrate on your surroundings instead of  just on your problems.
8. Maintain a daily routine. even if you are unemployed, retired, but do not get into a continual rut as well
I have often helped many a poor, depressed person, not by any medications, but by  simply by changing their daily normal activity routine, and next by taking them for a drive into the country, or taking them to see a good film, a comedy, or Giving them some good movies to watch, or by me taking them to a fine food restaurant, or by me taking them for a long  walk through unfamiliar surroundings.. and it worked.. it actually next had broke them out of their long term depression.
Can’t change positively   the person? try first changing their surroundings, environment temporarily?
A familiar pattern of  daily activates can decrease stress and increase your sense of security. Be willing to make a change once a while as well.
9. Avoid taking your problems to bed. Try to forgive and forget.
Clear your mind of the days thoughts so you can get a good night sleep.
10. Talk to your adequate health care provider, helper. Pick and choose, for remember there are still good and bad professionals.
She/he can help you find the right agency or person(s) to assist you in coping with stress. 
With God on your side you will always be a winner
St. Francis of Assisi’s prayer in praise of God
You are holy, Lord, the only God,
and Your deeds are wonderful.
You are strong.
You are great.
You are the Most High.
You are Almighty.
You, Holy Father are King of heaven and earth.
You are Three and One, Lord God, all Good.
You are Good, all Good, supreme Good,
Lord God, living and true.
You are love. You are wisdom.
You are humility. You are endurance.
You are rest. You are peace.
You are joy and gladness.
You are justice and moderation.
You are all our riches, and You suffice for us.
You are beauty.
You are gentleness.
You are our protector.
You are our guardian and defender.
You are our courage. You are our haven and our hope.
You are our faith, our great consolation.
You are our eternal life, Great and Wonderful Lord,
God Almighty, Merciful Saviour.
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Crispy Kentucky Fried Chicken, Recipes



I love a Crispy Kentucky Fried Chicken
Kentucky Chicken Coating Ingredients
1 pkg. Good Seasons Italian dressing mix
1/2 Tbsp. paprika
1/2 tsp. salt
1 cup self-rising flour
1/2 cup corn flour, medium grind
1/2 tsp oregano
1 tbsp dry mustard
2 Tbsp. garlic powder
2 Tbsp. onion powder
Mix all together and coat for frying or baking.
Make a milk and egg dip by using a couple eggs, water and milk. Put chicken in milk and egg dip. Take out roll all pieces in flour and press down hard to get as much flour mix as possible to stick. Here is the part how to make it extra crispy Place chicken a second time in milk and egg dip for 30 seconds, then take chicken out and put back in flour and press hard again to get flour on the chicken. Now oil fry it for 7-10 minutes and see if its like extra crispy KFC.
Genuine KFC secret recipe  Oven cooked
2 cups flour
1/2 tsp salt
1/2 tsp thyme
1/2 tsp basil
1/2 tsp oregano
1 tbsp celery salt
1 tbsp black pepper
1 tbsp dry mustard
4 tbsp paprika
2 tsp garlic salt
1 tsp ground ginger
3 tbsp MSG (Accent)
Mix all ingredients well in a large bowl. Dip chicken pieces in beaten eggs Then turn them over in regular bread crumbs (commercial) Finally plunge them in the flour-spices mixture (above) Heat oven to 350 degrees Place chicken in a tray and cover with foil (shiny side out) Cook 40 minutes. Remove the foil then cook for another 40 minutes Baste lightly with oil 5 minutes before the end Let stand 5 minutes and serve.
Kentucky Fried Chicken Cole Slaw
1/3 c. sugar
1/2 t. salt
1/8 t. pepper
1/4 c. milk
1/2 c. mayonnaise
1/4 c. buttermilk
1 1/2 T. white vinegar
2 1/2 T. lemon juice
1 whole cabbage, chopped fine
1 med. carrot, grated
Mix chopped cabbage and carrot. Mix all other ingredients. Add to cabbage mix. Chill for 2 hours.
Copycat KFC Cole Slaw
 8 c very finely chopped cabbage (1 head)
1/2 c shredded carrot (1 medium carrot)
1/3 c granulated sugar 1/8 t ground pepper
1/2 c milk 1/2 c mayonnaise
1/4 c buttermilk
1-1/2 T white vinegar
2-1/2 T lemon juice
Be sure that the cabbage and carrots are chopped up into very fine pieces (about the size of rice kernels).
Combine the sugar, salt, pepper, milk, mayonnaise, buttermilk, vinegar, and lemon juice, and beat until smooth.
Add the cabbage and carrots.
Mix well.
Cover and refrigerate for at least 2 hours before serving.
Yield: serves 8 (02/07/2007) KFC adds onions to their cole slaw
1 1/2 cups flour
1 1/2 teaspoon salt
1 Tablespoon sugar
1 Tablespoon baking powder
2/3 cup milk
1/3 cup vegetable shortening
INSTRUCTIONS Preheat oven to 425ºF. Sift together flour, salt, sugar and baking powder into mixing bowl. Make a well in the flour mix and add the milk. Add shortening and begin kneading with hands (to cut in) the vegetable shortening and flour in the milk until thoroughly mixed. Add milk, if needed to form, and mix. Turn onto floured board, and knead gently 6 to 8 times. Pat dough to 1/2-inch thickness. Cut into biscuits. Place on baking sheet and brown in oven 10-13 minutes. Makes about 9 biscuits. original biscut recipe from kfc website
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Yummy Parmesan Tomato Sandwich
2 tablespoons olive oil
2 tablespoons balsamic vinegar
2 ripe tomatoes, sliced
3 tablespoons mayonnaise
2 tablespoons dried parsley
2 tablespoons dried oregano
1/4 teaspoon black pepper
3 tablespoons grated Parmesan cheese, divided
4 slices multigrain bread, lightly toasted
Preheat oven to broil.
In a shallow bowl, whisk together the olive oil and vinegar.
Marinate the tomatoes in the mixture, stirring occasionally.
Meanwhile, in a small bowl, combine mayonnaise, parsley, oregano,
black pepper and 4 teaspoons Parmesan cheese. Spread mixture on
each slice of toasted bread. Place marinated tomatoes on 4 slices
and sprinkle with remaining Parmesan cheese.
Place on a baking sheet and broil for 5 minutes,
or until cheese turns golden brown.
Serve immediately, open faced or closed.

I also do love Curry or   Japanese Teriyaki sauce with rice, meat and vegetables
and the spare ribs with sweet and sour sauce
For desert I love doughnuts, Apple pies, Rum Cakes, Eclairs, Cheeese cakes  



Easy Chicken curry
300-400 grams chicken cut into chunks
1 large white onion, chopped
2-3 cloves garlic, minced
1/4 cup (60ml) olive oil
8 fl.oz (240ml) chicken stock
28 oz (796ml) can plum tomatoes, including juice
2-3 tablespoons (30-45ml) curry powder (to taste)
1 cup (250ml) frozen peas
2 tbsp (30ml) fresh lemon juice
Sauté chicken in olive oil and add onions and garlic after a few minutes. Continue to cook on medium heat until onions are translucent and soft and chicken is reasonably well-cooked.
Add chicken stock, tomatoes, curry powder and stir well, breaking up the tomatoes. Simmer uncovered to thicken, stirring occasionally on low-medium heat for about 30 minutes.
Add peas and simmer for an additional 15 minutes, then add the raisins and almond slivers along with the lemon juice. Simmer an additional 5 minutes and serve.
Pineapple tidbits can be added to this recipe for a more West-Indian flavor, and dish can be garnished with fresh green coriander leaves.
Serve with steamed rice and roti flatbread.

Curried Chicken
400-500 grams boneless, skinless chicken breasts, cut into chunks, or skinless chicken legs and thighs
1/4 cup olive oil or ghee (60ml)
2 onions
4 cloves garlic
1″ (2.5 cm) piece peeled fresh ginger root
2″ (5 cm) cinnamon stick
2 dried red chilies
1 tsp turmeric powder (5ml)
5-10 cardamom pods – seeds only, discard shells
5 whole cloves
14 ounce (400ml) can tomato sauce
1/2 cup water (125ml)
1/2 cup  (125ml) plain yogurt
1 tbsp lemon juice ((15ml)
chopped fresh coriander leaves (cilantro)
When entertaining, it can be made ahead and then simmered at an extremely low temperature until time to serve – this actually will enhance the flavor. Be sure to serve with Naan bread and yogurt salad (raita), along with lots of basmati rice. We like to serve at least two curried meat meals and a vegetable dish such as alu mattar, along with as many side-dishes as possible.
Chop spices and garlic in blender, along with tomato sauce, water and finally add yogurt and pulse to mix.
Sauté chicken pieces in oil and then add onions, continue cooking till onions are transparent and tender and chicken is reasonably well-cooked.Pour spice mixture over the chicken and onions and bring to a boil, stirring well.
Simmer, covered, stirring occasionally until chicken is tender for about 45 minutes.
Add lemon juice, and garnish your curried chicken with fresh coriander leaves.

Chicken Cacciatore
“Chicken in the style of hunters” – Chicken Cacciatore, or is it Chicken Cattiatore is great served with garlic toast and a huge Caesar Salad!
10 -12 skinless chicken thighs (bone-in)
2 medium yellow onions, cut into rings
2 cloves garlic, minced
1/2 green pepper, chopped
5 – 6 mushrooms, sliced
28 fl. oz. can of Italian tomatoes (796ml)
1 can of tomato paste (5½ oz.) (156ml)
2 tsp dried oregano (10ml)
olive oil
1/2 tsp dried basil (3ml)
salt and pepper to taste
fusilli or rotini pasta
Sauté chicken in oil and add onions and garlic, followed a couple of minutes later by the green pepper and mushrooms.
Cook until chicken is no longer pink and the onions are soft.
Stir in tomatoes, including juice, tomato paste and seasonings.
Cook, covered on low heat, stirring regularly for about 40 – 50 minutes.
Meanwhile prepare your favorite type of spiral pasta, by adding to lightly-salted boiling water with a dash of olive oil.
Mix drained, cooked pasta in with the chicken/sauce mixture and garnish with fresh parsley.
Serves four.

Beef Stroganoff
1½  pounds (600 gm) lean sirloin beef steak
6 – 8 white button mushrooms, sliced
3 medium onions chopped
2 cloves garlic, minced
2 cups (500 ml) beef stock
5½ ounce (156 ml) can of tomato paste
1½ cups (375 ml) sour cream
2 tbsp (30 ml) flour
3 tbsp (45 ml) olive oil
salt & pepper to taste
Hot cooked fettuccine noodles
Trim excess fat from the beef and cut into 1/2″ x 2″ ( 1 cm x 5 cm) strips across the grain of the meat. Season with salt and pepper.
Heat a large frying pan until very hot, add the oil and cook the beef strips quickly – cooking in about three batches so that it fries and doesn’t start to stew. Add the onion and continue to cook a few minutes more, then add the garlic and mushrooms.
Add the tomato paste and the beef stock, mix well, bring to a boil and continue to simmer.
Combine the flour and the sour cream in a small bowl then carefully add this to the pan, stirring well. Do not allow to boil but maintain the temperature until pasta and side dishes are ready.

Spicy Pork and Rice Casserole

500 gm lean ground pork
2 onions, diced
2 garlic cloves, minced
2″ (5 cm) fresh ginger, peeled and chopped extremely fine
2 cups chicken stock (500 ml)
1 cup water
28 fl.oz. can of Italian tomatoes (796ml) – not drained
1½ cups frozen peas ((310 ml)
2 tbsp (30 ml) olive oil
1/2 tsp paprika (3 ml)
1/2 tsp turmeric (3 ml)
1/2 tsp ground black pepper (3 ml)
3/4 tsp (4 ml) ground cumin
1 tsp (5 ml) oregano
1¼ cups uncooked long grain white rice ((300 gm)
A great all-in-one-dish meal that the whole family will love!
Brown pork in oil. Set aside.
Sauté  onions and then add garlic and ginger, cook for 5 more minutes. Add chicken stock, water and tomatoes, including their liquid.
Break up the tomatoes, while bringing to the boil, add the spices and finally the rice.
Put a third of the mixture into an ovenproof casserole and add a layer of pork  then some rice mixture, more pork, and then add remaining rice mixture over top.
Cover casserole tightly,: if lid is loose-fitting you can use a layer of aluminum foil below it to get a better seal.
Bake at 350°F or 180°C for about 45 minutes. Remove from the oven and fluff up the rice before stirring in the frozen peas.
Continue to bake for an additional 15 minutes, covered.1 pork chop per person, trimmed of excess fat

Shepherd’s Pie or Cottage Pie 
 This recipe for a basic Shepherd’s Pie. In England this would be called Cottage Pie, whereas Shepherd’s Pie would be made with lamb. In Quebec it is known as Pâté Chinois’, or Chinese Pâté and would have a layer of sweet corn. .
500 gm lean ground beef
2 medium yellow onions, chopped
2 cloves garlic, minced
5-6 mushrooms, sliced
olive oil
parsley, pepper and salt to taste
2 packages Oxo brand bouillon or equivalent
2 tsp Worcestershire Sauce (10 ml)
3/4 cup breadcrumbs (40 gm)
1 egg
5-6 white potatoes boiled and mashed with a little butter and milk (save water to make gravy)
Prepare potatoes and put on to boil. Sauté beef, onions, garlic and mushrooms in a little oil. Drain excess fats when cooked and stir in seasonings and beef bouillon powder. Add the breadcrumbs, egg and mix well before spreading into a casserole. Add a little of the water from the potatoes to ensure moistness.
Top with mashed potato and finish the top as desired. I like to use a small kitchen knife to get a rough finish that turns out slightly crispy. Spritz with a little olive oil before baking to get a crispier, more golden-brown topping.
Bake in 350°F or 180°C oven until the top starts to brown (about 35 minutes) I often finish using the broiler for extra color if needed.Serve with gravy and desired vegetable.

Roast Parmesan Potatoes
An interesting twist on regular roasted potatoes or french fries: I must admit they are slightly decadent, but make a great side dish with barbecued pork, sausage, hamburgers or chicken.
700 gm Parisienne potatoes (uncooked), or you can make your own by scooping out white potatoes with a large melon baller (approx 1½” or 3.5 cm diameter)
1/2 tsp (3 ml) dry mustard powder
1 cup (100 gm) grated Parmesan cheese
1 tsp (5 ml) parsley flakes
salt and pepper to taste
1/2 tsp (3 ml) garlic powder
1/2 cup  (125 ml) melted butter
1 cup (90 gm) breadcrumbs
Combine the breadcrumbs, cheese, parsley, salt and pepper and garlic powder. Mix well.
Stir mustard into the melted butter. Brush the Parisienne potatoes with melted butter mixture and then roll in the breadcrumb mixture to coat all surfaces.
Arrange in a single layer in a shallow roasting dish. Spray with a little olive oil.
Bake at 375°F or 190°C for 45-60 minutes, rolling the potatoes occasionally to ensure even roasting.


Food sauces

Spices and sauces tend to make a good meal as well..
Sweet and Sour Sauce –
2 cans pineapple juice
½ cup vinegar
½ cup sucaryl
¼ cup soya sauce
Corn starch
Combine all ingredients together. Add corn starch to cold water and thicken. 

Teriyaki Sauce
1/2 c. soy sauce
1/4 c. pineapple juice
1/2 tsp. ginger
1/2 tsp. onion powder
1/8 tsp. garlic powder
Combine ingredients. Use sauce to marinate chicken, pork chops, spare ribs, even hamburger patties. Marinate at least 1 hour. Cook on covered grill, basting occasionally with teriyaki sauce.

Home Made Teriyaki Sauce
1/3 cup (85 ml) brown sugar
2 tsp (10 ml) garlic powder
1 tsp (5 ml) ground ginger
2 cups (500 ml) tomato ketchup
1/2 cup (125 ml) soy sauce
1/3 cup (85 ml) cider vinegar
1½ tbsp (20 ml) Worcestershire sauce
Combine dry ingredients in a bowl, or blender. Add liquids and mix very well.
Transfer to a tightly sealed jar and refrigerate for at least four hours – overnight is best.
Stir well before using.

Teriyaki Sauce
(Marinade for meats, chicken wings or pork tenderloin.)
1 bottle soy sauce (lite for less salt)
1/2 c. brown sugar
1/4 c. molasses
6-8 garlic
1/2 c. oil (olive)
Pour ingredients into medium saucepan. Bring to boil and simmer. Pour over meat in morning turning during the day. Bar-B-Que or bake meat. 

Teriyaki Sauce  
1/2 c. teriyaki sauce
1/2 c. dry sherry
1 inch slice ginger root, shredded
1 garlic clove, minced
Pureed in a blender, let stand for 30 minutes. Drain and reserve the marinade.



Home-style Oatmeal Apple Crisp 
8 medium apples, pared and sliced
1 cup all purpose flour, sifted (120 gm / 4oz)
1½ tsp (7 ml) ground cinnamon
2/3 cup softened butter or margarine (190 gm / 7oz)
1½ cup brown sugar (240 gm / 8 oz)
1 cup oatmeal flakes (50 gm / 2 oz)
1 tsp (5ml) ground nutmeg
 This is just a bit heartier than my very popular Oatmeal Apple Crisp recipe – extra apples and alot more topping!
Preheat oven to 375°F or 190°C. Grease baking dish with additional butter and arrange apple slices in it.
Cut the flour into the softened butter until the mixture resembles breadcrumbs. Then add the other ingredients and mix thoroughly. Sprinkle the dry mixture over top of the apples. Bake 30 minutes, or until apples are cooked and topping is golden-brown.

Oatmeal Apple Crisp
6 medium apples, pared and sliced
1/2 cup all purpose flour, sifted (60 gm / 2oz)
3/4 tsp (4 ml) ground cinnamon
1/3 cup softened butter or margarine (95 gm / 3½oz)
3/4 cup brown sugar (120 gm / 4 oz)
1/2 cup oatmeal flakes (25 gm / 1 oz)
3/4 tsp (4ml) ground nutmeg

Preheat oven to 375°F or 190°C. Grease baking dish with additional butter and arrange apple slices in it.
Cut the flour into the softened butter until the mixture resembles breadcrumbs. Then add the other ingredients and mix thoroughly.
Sprinkle the dry mixture over top of the apples. Bake 30 minutes, or until apples are cooked and topping is golden-brown.

Home Made Cinnamon Buns
1/2 cup (125 ml) water
1/2 cup (125 ml) milk
2 eggs
1/3 cup (80 ml) oil
1 tsp (5 ml) salt
1/3 cup (125 ml) white sugar
4 cups (570 gm) all purpose white flour
2 tsp (10 ml) dried yeast

1/3 cup (80 ml) melted butter
2/3 cup (165 ml) brown sugar
2 tsp (10 ml) cinnamon powder
1/2 cup (30 gm) chopped pecans
1/2 cup (100 gm) raisins
**If making by hand, combine yeast with a little sugar and the salt in the milk and water and allow to bubble for a while.
Combine remaining dry ingredients and make a mound with a depression in the middle in which to add the wet ingredients including the eggs and the yeast mixture. Combine and knead well until smooth. Allow to rise for about two hours and then punch down.
Take risen dough and punch down and knead. Roll out into a rectangle approximately 18″ x 12″  (45cm x 30 cm) Brush dough with melted butter and sprinkle evenly with brown sugar and cinnamon. Scatter the raisins and chopped pecans before rolling along the longest side of the dough. Cut into rounds and place in a greased baking pan allowing space for the dough to expand between each bun.
Allow to rise, covered for another 60 – 90 minutes and then bake at 350°F or 180°C for 25 – 30 minutes.

 Oatmeal – Spice Cake
A classic cake that is very easy to make. Use our Maple Frosting or your own frosting recipe to finish.
1/2 cup (125 gm) butter or margarine
1 cup (160 gm) brown sugar, packed
1/2 cup (120 gm) white sugar
2 large eggs
1¼ cups (150 gm) white cake flour
1½ tsp (8 ml) baking soda
1/2 tsp (3 ml) salt
1 cup (142 gm) quick porridge oats
1 tsp ( 5 ml) ground cinnamon
1/2 tsp (3 ml) grated nutmeg
1 cup (250 ml) water
2 tbsp (30 ml) dark molasses
2 cups (280 gm) icing sugar
1½ tsp (8 ml) margarine or butter
1 tsp (5 ml) maple extract
milk to mix 
 Heat oven to 350°F or 180°C.
Grease and flour a bundt baking pan.
Cream butter in a large mixer bowl with the sugars, add eggs and then add all the other ingredients. Mix at low speed for 30 seconds or so and then beat at high speed for 2 – 3 minutes, scraping the sides of the bowl constantly.
Pour into the baking pan and cook for 35 – 40 minutes until a toothpick inserted in the middle comes out clean.
Mix frosting ingredients together thoroughly and drizzle over the cake when it has cooled.

Brown Sugar Drop Cookies 
A quick and easy recipe, Brown Sugar Drop Cookies make a great after-school snack with milk for the kids.
1 cup margarine or butter, softened (250 gm / 9 oz)
2 cups brown sugar (packed) (320 gm / 11 oz)
2 eggs
1/2 cup milk (125 ml / ¼ pint)
3½ cups all purpose flour (500 gm / 1lb 2 oz)
1 tsp baking soda (5ml)
1 tsp salt (5ml)
Mix thoroughly the butter, sugar, egg and milk. Sift dry ingredients together and then blend into egg mixture. Cover and chill for one hour.
Drop dough by rounded tablespoons about 2″ (5 cm) apart on a cookie sheet covered with parchment paper.
Bake in batches for approx 8-12 minutes until golden at 375°F or 190°C. Remove to a cooling rack immediately.

Fruit & Nut Refrigerator Cookies 
Colourful and festive; these refrigerator cookies will brighten up any occasion. Follow our simple directions and the kids will love this treat!
Slice into 1/4″ (0.75 cm) slices using a sharp knife.
Bake on a cookie sheet covered with parchment paper in batches for approx 8-12 minutes until golden at 375°F or 190°C
5 cups (700 gm) all-purpose flour
2 tsp (10 ml) baking powder
1 tsp (5 ml) baking soda
1/2 tsp (3 ml) salt
2 cups  (500 gm) butter or margarine
2 cups (480 gm) white sugar
4 eggs
2 tsp (10 ml) vanilla extract
2 cups (500 gm) chopped glaceed cherries, mixed peel and dried fruit
1 cup (250 gm) chopped nuts – walnuts or almonds
2 tbsp (20 gm) coloured cake sprinkles (optional)

Sift together the flour, baking powder, baking soda and salt. Stir well to mix.
Cream the butter or margarine with the sugar and gradually add the eggs and then the vanilla extract.
Gradually add the flour to the butter and egg mixture and mix well. Add the nuts, fruit and sprinkles and combine.
Chill the dough for 30 minutes to improve handling.
Shape the dough into four rolls approximately 1½” (4 cm) diameter and wrap in parchment paper.
Refrigerate the rolls overnight.

Oatmeal Raisin Cookies 
Another favorite with the kids, these are easy to make and so healthful!
3/4 cup (185 gm) margarine or butter, softened
1/2 cup (120 gm) white sugar
1 egg
1 cup (packed) (160 gm) brown sugar
1 cup (100 gm) all purpose flour
1/2 cup (125 ml) water
1/2 tsp (3ml) baking soda
1 tsp (5 ml) vanilla extract
1 tsp (5 ml) salt
1 tsp cinnamon
1/2 tsp (3 ml) ground cloves
1 cup (80 gm) chopped nuts
1 cup (250 gm) raisins
3 cups (420 gm) quick-cooking oats 

Mix thoroughly the butter,  sugars, egg, water and vanilla. Stir in remaining ingredients.
Drop dough by rounded teaspoons 1″ (2.5 cm) apart on a cookie sheet covered with parchment paper.
Bake in batches for approx 12 – 15 minutes until golden at 350°F or 180°C.


 Peanut Butter Cookies 
 A constant favorite with kids of all ages! Perfect for after school with a large glass of milk.
1/2 cup (125 gm) margarine or butter, softened
1/2 cup (120 gm) white sugar
1 egg
1/2 cup (125 gm) peanut butter
1/2 cup (packed) (80 gm) brown sugar
1¼ cups (125 gm) all purpose flour
3/4 tsp (4ml) baking soda
1/2 tsp (3ml) baking powder
1/4 tsp (2ml) salt
Mix thoroughly the butter, peanut butter, sugars and egg. Sift dry ingredients together and then blend into egg mixture. Cover and chill.
Shape dough into 1″ (2.5 cm) balls. Place 3″ (7.5 cm) apart on a cookie sheet covered with parchment paper. With a fork dipped in flour, flatten in a criss-cross pattern to 2″ (5 cm) diameter.
Bake in batches for approx 8-12 minutes until golden at 375°F or 190°C.