Danger – High Sodium Diets Hazardous to Health

 

According to a recent study, excess consumption of salt is linked to diseases like, hypertension, osteoporosis, kidney damage and stomach cancer etc. Hence high sodium diets are highly dangerous to the health, especially to heart.  The dietary guidelines recommend less than 2,300 mg intake of sodium per day. Americans do not pay heed to the same and eat an average of 3,436 mg every day.  Maximum sodium intake comes from the processed foods like cheeses, sliced meats, sauces and French fries, etc. Sauces and spreads can contain salt to the extent of 1,283 mg of salt per 100 grams. Foods that were once frozen and canned are full of sodium.  Dr. Marc Schweiger, director of Cardiac Catheterization/Research in the Division of Cardiology at Baystate Medical Center, says, “Although salt is found in many foods, maintaining a low-sodium diet will benefit your long-term health in a variety of ways”.
http://topnews.net.nz/content/22163-high-sodium-diets-hazardous-health

 

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Sugary soft drinks increase pancreas cancer risk

“We know that sugar-sweetened beverages are cause-and-effect for obesity and diabetes,” “We just have to stop drinking sugary beverages,” Those beverages include soda pop, energy and sports drinks as well as fruit beverages, sweetened iced teas and homemade sugary drinks like frescas. “It’s liquid candy,” “Canadians are often unaware of how much sugar they’re consuming in beverage form. And the more you drink, the higher your risk is of these adverse health effects,” Sugary drinks are the main source of added sugars in the Canadian diet, said Lesley James, a health policy analyst at the Heart and Stroke Foundation. “There’s no intrinsic health value to it. There’s plenty of replacements. This is an easy problem to fix. “There’s no intrinsic health value to it. There’s plenty of replacements. This is an easy problem to fix. .Now a new study, holds sugary drinks responsible for the death of 1,600 Canadians annually..

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A study found that diabetes induced by excessive consumption of sugary beverages was responsible for more than 70 per cent of those deaths, with cardiovascular disease and cancer trailing behind at 25 per cent and four per cent respectively.

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Drinking two or more soft drinks per week nearly doubles a person’s risk of developing pancreatic cancer, says a new study released Monday that followed over 60,000 people for a period of 14 years.  http://toronto.ctv.ca/servlet/an/local/CTVNews/20100208/softdrink_pancreatic_100208/20100208/?hub=TorontoNewHome
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Researchers examined the risks associated with those who drink sugar-sweetened carbonated drinks, versus those who don’t consume these beverages.

Pancreatic cancer is one of the most deadly forms of cancer, and only 5 per cent of people who are diagnosed are known to survive five years later, according to the American Cancer Society. About 3,900 Canadians were diagnosed with pancreatic cancer last year. Globally, that number is about 230,000.

“The high levels of sugar in soft drinks may be increasing the level of insulin in the body, which we think contributes to pancreatic cancer cell growth,” lead researcher Mark Pereira of the University of Minnesota said in a statement. Insulin helps the body metabolize sugar, and is produced in the pancreas.

Pereira and his colleagues followed 60,524 men and women in Singapore for 14 years. Over that period, researchers found:

  • 140 of the volunteers developed pancreatic cancer.
  • An 87 per cent higher risk of developing cancer for those who drank two or more soft drinks per week.
  • No link found between drinking fruit juice and developing pancreatic cancer.

Pereira says the findings would apply to western countries as well.

“Singapore is a wealthy country with excellent healthcare. Favourite pastimes are eating and shopping, so the findings should apply to other western countries,” he said.

He points out that while sugar may be to blame, those who drink sugar-sweetened soda often have other poor health habits.

Jennifer Sygo, a nutritionist with the Cleveland Clinic, says there isn’t the same level of research available for sugar as there is for salt. But she points out guidelines by the American Heart Association, which recommends:

  • Women should not consume more than 25 grams of added sugar a day (6.5 teaspoons);
  • Men should not consume more than 38 grams of added sugar a day (9.5 teaspoons).

Just by cutting sugar intake by half, or even one-third, it would make a big difference. For those who just need their sugar fix, many  recommend  a cup of juice a day, then water or a Perrier if you need some carbonation.

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Occasional sweets are OK. But it’s foods like fruits, vegetables, cereals, breads, rice, and other grains that give your body the vitamins, minerals, fiber, and other nutrients that it needs. It doesn’t matter what disease we are talking about, whether we are talking about a common cold or about cardiovascular disease, or cancer or osteoporosis, the root is always going to be at the cellular and molecular level, and more often than not insulin is going to have its hand in it, if not totally controlling it. http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_m0846/is_8_22/ai_98594272/

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The health dangers which ingesting sugar on an habitual basis creates are certain. Simple sugars have been observed to aggravate asthma, move mood swings, provoke personality changes, muster mental illness, nourish nervous disorders, deliver diabetes, hurry heart disease, grow gallstones, hasten hypertension, and add arthritis.

The list of health problems associated with sugar is quite lengthy and growing by the year. Some generalities include the following:

  • depression
  • mood swings
  • irritability
  • hyperactivity
  • anxiety
  • panic attacks
  • mineral deficiencies
  • adrenal gland depletion
  • hypoglycemia
  • candida overgrowth
  • increased cholesterol levels
  • chronic fatigue

Then we get into the more serious diseases and disorders, as cancers, diabetes, obesity, and heart disease. Sugar, even in small amounts, suppresses the immune system making it easier to succumb to the various ailments. It should be noted though that there is a very significant difference between white refined sugar and naturally occurring complex sugars found in whole foods.

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Here again is a list of ways sugar can affect your health:

  • Sugar can suppress the immune system.
  • Sugar can upset the body’s mineral balance.
  • Sugar can contribute to hyperactivity, anxiety, depression, concentration difficulties, and crankiness in children.
  • Sugar can produce a significant rise in triglycerides.
  • Sugar can cause drowsiness and decreased activity in children.
  • Sugar can reduce helpful high density cholesterol (HDLs).
  • Sugar can promote an elevation of harmful cholesterol (LDLs).
  • Sugar can cause hypoglycemia.
  • Sugar contributes to a weakened defense against bacterial infection.
  • Sugar can cause kidney damage.
  • Sugar can increase the risk of coronary heart disease.
  • Sugar may lead to chromium deficiency.
  • Sugar can cause copper deficiency.
  • Sugar interferes with absorption of calcium and magnesium.
  • Sugar can increase fasting levels of blood glucose.
  • Sugar can promote tooth decay.
  • Sugar can produce an acidic stomach.
  • Sugar can raise adrenaline levels in children.
  • Sugar can lead to periodontal disease.
  • Sugar can speed the aging process, causing wrinkles and grey hair.
  • Sugar can increase total cholesterol.
  • Sugar can contribute to weight gain and obesity.
  • High intake of sugar increases the risk of Crohn’s disease and ulcerative colitis.
  • Sugar can contribute to diabetes.
  • Sugar can contribute to osteoporosis.
  • Sugar can cause a decrease in insulin sensitivity.
  • Sugar leads to decreased glucose tolerance.
  • Sugar can cause cardiovascular disease.
  • Sugar can increase systolic blood pressure.
  • Sugar causes food allergies.
  • Sugar can cause free radical formation in the bloodstream.
  • Sugar can cause toxemia during pregnancy.
  • Sugar can contribute to eczema in children.
  • Sugar can overstress the pancreas, causing damage.
  • Sugar can cause atherosclerosis.
  • Sugar can compromise the lining of the capillaries.
  • Sugar can cause liver cells to divide, increasing the size of the liver.
  • Sugar can increase the amount of fat in the liver.
  • Sugar can increase kidney size and produce pathological changes in the kidney.
  • Sugar can cause depression.
  • Sugar can increase the body’s fluid retention.
  • Sugar can cause hormonal imbalance.
  • Sugar can cause hypertension.
  • Sugar can cause headaches, including migraines.
  • Sugar can cause an increase in delta, alpha and theta brain waves, which can alter the mind’s ability to think clearly.
  • Sugar can increase blood platelet adhesiveness which increases risk of blood clots and strokes.
  • Sugar can increase insulin responses in those consuming high-sugar diets compared to low sugar diets.
  • Sugar increases bacterial fermentation in the colon.

Source: www.nancyappleton.com

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To be sure, sugar is needed by the body for energy. However, far too many people are getting too much of a good thing – way too much.

Excessive sugar consumption is the major cause of an imbalance of all minerals especially:

  • calcium
  • magnesium
  • manganese
  • chromium
  • zinc
  • copper
  • cobalt (necessary for vitamin B12)
  • chromium (together with insulin, stimulates cells to absorb and metabolize sugar)

This imbalance leads to degenerative diseases including heart disease, osteoporosis, some anemias, and diabetes Studies have shown that individuals who continued on a high fiber diet for several months showed increased normalization of blood sugar levels. High fiber diets also lessen the sugar in the urine, and lowers fasting blood sugar levels and medication requirements.

Diets which include 20-35 grams of fiber per day is the ideal amount. Good sources of fiber are the following:

  • dry or cooked oat bran
  • cooked oatmeal
  • black-eyed peas
  • kidney or pinto beans
  • split peas
  • butter beans
  • lentils
  • fresh peas
  • baked potatoes with skins
  • brussels sprouts
  • corn
  • zucchini
  • prunes
  • apricots
  • broccoli

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Just when we got the hang of baking with applesauce instead of oil and forgoing Chips Ahoy for SnackWell’s, the diet gurus throw us another curveball: Forget counting fat grams, they say. The real villain is sugar!

According to a slew of recent diet books, it’s sugar, not fat, that causes chronic overeating and adds extra pounds that wont budge. Their solution: Slash sugar from the diet completely.

Give wonderful, delicious sugar the boot (gulp) forever? We couldn’t bear it. So we asked leading nutrition experts to give it to us straight, Before you consider dumping your Twizzlers or denying yourself dessert, find out what the experts say about the truth–and the hype–when it comes to the sweet stuff.

Sugar Myth #1: You should eliminate all sugar from your diet.

First, a quick and painless science lesson: Sugars, aka carbohydrates, are made of carbon, hydrogen and oxygen. Individually, these strings of molecules are called monosaccharides, which include sugars such as fructose (found in fruit). Link two sets of molecules together and you have disaccharides, such as sucrose (table sugar) and lactose (the sugar found in milk). Combine a whole bunch of units, producing an even more complex molecule, and you’ve got starches and fiber.

And no matter what form you eat–from Gummi Bears to Wheaties–carbs contain 4 calories per gram, break down to simple sugars during digestion (except for fiber, which is indigestible) and are either used for immediate energy or stored for later. In other words, you need sugars in your diet to keep your body running. Most should come in the form of nutrient-rich starches like whole grains and cereals. You should also eat plenty of fruits, vegetables and lowfat dairy products–which contain sugars, but also valuable vitamins, minerals and disease-fighting chemicals.

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Hospital deaths account for half of deaths annually

   

 Now as you and your loved ones get older you too will spend more time in Doctor’s offices, Hospitals, and convalescent, old age homes and will have wished that you had done something more about it all before too..
 
ONE OFTEN HEARS A CONCERNS FROM PATIENTS AND RELATED FAMILY MEMBERS WHETHER THEY SHOULD TRUST EVERYTHING THE ONLY HUMAN AND STILL NEED TO BE SUPERVISED DOCTORS, NURSES, HOSPITAL MANAGERS SAY OR PROMISES THEY WILL DO AND THE ANSWER IS NO CAUSE PEOPLE LIE AND MAKE PROMISES THAT OTHERS DO NOT KEEP. SOME PEOPLE RESPOND THAT THAT IS TOO MUCH WORK? WELL IF YOU REALLY DO WANT TO INSURE ADEQUATE MEDICAL CARE FOR YOURSELF AND OTHERS  YOU STILL DO HAVE TO MAINTAIN A CONTINUAL SURVEILLANCE OF THE MEDICAL TREATMENTS, SERVICES.  
 
How to get better medical services overall? Well the wheel that makes the most noise seems to get the most grease still too..
 
Now many of us already do now about the all too-common Medical  PATIENT killers like:
-MEDICATION MISTAKES. Wrong pills! Wrong blood transfusions! Wrong intravenous drips! Don’t bother even  to guessing how often this happens.  It’s worse than your wildest nightmares. Unsupervised Doctors and Hospitals make many mistakes like these every hour.
-DOCTORS’ DIRTY HANDS. Incredibly, recent surveys show that doctors wash their hands between patients only half the time… and nearly 90% of stethoscopes harbor staph bacteria.
-UNNEEDED SURGERY.  Surgeons could have used many less costly approaches THAT WOULD HAVE LESS NEGATIVE SIDE EFFECTS AND QUICKER HEALING TOO   choose instead to do the costly surgery
– DOCTORS FAIL TO PRESCRIBE PROPER MEDICAL TEST . Medical Technicians have to be told what specific blood tests also have to be done first.. they do not automatically check for every possible sickness or diseases thus.
HOSPITALS are filled with infection-causing bacteria that cannot be found anywhere else. Hospitals, which often house very large numbers of sick people, are the ideal breeding environment for the sometimes deadly bugs. Hospital patients generally have a lower level of immunity and offer little or no resistance to them. The hospital staff, due to constant exposure to the bugs, are fairly immune to them, but may pass them on to patients by touching them or their food, bedding, clothing, or medications.* Contrary to common belief, hospitals are among the most contaminated places in the world. In fact  it does not take much dirt to become a breeding place for billions of deadly infectious bacteria.
* Doctors can be the worst transmitters of disease in hospitals. Most doctors do not wash their hands except before an operation, when they wear sterilized gloves and gowns anyway. They may sometimes touch many dozens of patients within several hours, one after the other, without washing their hands even once. Even the doctor’s white gown is not as clean as it looks. It is only clean if it is washed every single day, which rarely happens. .
* Bed sheets may be clean, but mattresses and pillows are not. The chance of being infected by bugs living in them is 1 in 20.
* A hospital patient may receive up to 12 different kinds of medication, all of which produce side effects, SOME  that can lead to serious complications and even death. AND SOME MEDICATIONS GIVEN ARE GIVEN IN ERROR AS WELL
* NOT SURPRISING TO MANY PERSONS hospitals PATIENTS OFTEN  are suffering from malnutrition due to a poor hospital diet OR BUDGET CONSTRAINTS. Malnutrition, even starvation was found to be the major cause of death among older people in hospitals.
Add the toxic side effects of the drugs, the presence of deadly bugs, as well as the stress and anxiety that accompany an illness and a stay in a hospital, and a poorly nourished elderly person NOW EVEN has very little chance of surviving
Anxiety stress relief vitamins and minerals work in different ways by providing nutrients which control the metabolism rate and the hormone levels within our bodies. By keeping these two things stable we can provide a better mechanism to cope with stress and anxiety inducing situations. Most of the recommended anxiety stress relief vitamins and minerals can be found in the foods that we eat and can simply be attained by eating a healthy and balanced diet covering all the major food groups. And that is why eating proper foods is important.
 
Also
-I have often seen it myself, too many nurses and doctors wrongfully in no hurry to practically  help the really sick persons. Now some of these clearly bad persons  who still cannot face the negative reality about themselves, the ongoing especially bad nurses and doctors, lie and try to divert my  truth by saying I hate doctors and nurses, so well let me make it very clear I do rightfully hate all bad, pretentious, lazy, no good doctors and nurses who are not doing their jobs properly and  are causing other people to continue to suffer   as a result.. and they should always be fired ASAP.. Hospital administrators included. Is that clear enough for them now? That includes now also all bad cops, bad politicians, bad church pastors now  too..  http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2009/12/02/even-many-doctors-are-mainly-selfish-self-centered-want-to-get-rich-fast-too/
 – MANY PATIENTS WANT THEIR medicine delivered regularly daily at the same time and now  it seems to fluctuate through out different times of the day. they thus unnecessarily do   worry about missing their medicine.. and for them the lack of consistency in a patient having now having a more a regular Nurse is an important issue.. a new nurse for them now  almost everyday explains the medication delivery problems that still occur too often as well.. And hiring clearly ignoramuses,  fools, as workers, counselors, cause they are cheap, inexpensive now is not doing a great service to anyone, is not a real, valid help for the elderly too
– Medicating to death elderly persons WITH ERROR PRONE PILL PUSHING DOCTORS AND NURSES” and/or “starving them now to death BY NOT PROPERLY FEEDING THEM”, THE MOST COMMON APPROACHES I myself have often have seen now ARE NOT THE  VIABLE, EFFECTIVE, BENEFICIAL, COST EFFECTIVE  APPROACHES  NOR ARE THEY APPRECIATED, HELPFUL, BUT STILL ARE RATHER AN IMMORAL APPROACH. 
-Elderly persons need more special care cause they do tend to lack  the basic vitamins found in our common foods that help also to reduce one’s personal stress and anxiety.. for a hungry persons tends to be continually stressed and anxious and also do often   manifest  depression as well.. and what the classic treatment for depression is time, healing, by giving them proper nourishment, and proper rest and sleep.. in this case supplemented by proper pain killers, not improper pain killers  and/or merely  given proper sleeping pills too.   It seems that appropriate medication given by a face  mask if done immediately can alleviate further his panic and related breathing difficulties.. not just sleeping pills, or good food.. Now if you were also real , caring decent ministers in the federal government, then you and your provincial counterparts would supplement additional revenue to feed the elderly patients, who are being starved even murdered undeniably in old age homes, convalescent homes, hospitals in Canada, not just in 3rd world countries..
-Most everyone can realize that you really cannot separate the body, soul and sprit, and that our physical health and related healings is also effected also by our self worth, stress, anxiety but doctors and Hospitals want to stay mainly within the direct medical areas of pills, surgeries.. and tend not to use beneficial depression counselors as well.. As a result some sick people definitely would now have healed quicker had their root personal problems also been looked at and proper counseling given..
 – Clearly only fools cannot see that there is still very  much that can be done to improve the management, delivery of both our health care system and also the care of the elderly, persons too.
 
see also http://ummmuhammadahmad.wordpress.com/2010/01/03/hospitals-are-a-major-health-hazard/#comment-112

 Almost since my first job after graduating from university I had learned that people are not to be trusted, need to be supervised, and corruption still exists in construction, universities, municipalities, governments, corporations, amongst professionals and politicians as well.

 ..  It is really unacceptable and  still unbelievable that of all people the medical personnel. medical support staff, they too often still  do not take their jobs seriously  enough and they are the main cause of many persons hospital deaths. What are you doing good about it? in reality?
Now what are you all now really doing about many people suffering in your  Hospitals unnecessarily these days too due to the lack of competent staff? Actions speak louder over mere words.
 It is really really unacceptable that Personal Cleanliness in Hospitals and Hospital food isn’t always that great still too.. It is fact I have seen it the actual quality of food varies also from one hospital to another even
 
A report released 10/26/09 by Thomson Reuters, parent company of the Reuters news service, stated that   the current U.S. health system wastes  in a year, one-third of the current healthcare expenditure. The report cites the following as sources of wasteful spending:

Overuse of antibiotics and lab tests to protect against malpractice lawsuits (Pennsylvania State University estimates that as much as 91 percent of our nation’s healthcare expenditures are related to defensive medicine);
Signifcant Fraud  in Medicare claims  ;
Administrative inefficiency and redundant paperwork;
Medical mistakes;
Preventable conditions, such as uncontrolled diabetes
http://www.healthfreedom.net/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=933&Itemid=1  
 
A  doctor is concerned that Manitoba labs are putting patients in danger , the province is now conducting an external review into the matter.  Pediatric pathologist Dr. David Grynspan says he’s noticed problems at provincial labs for the past two years. Last month, he submitted a 20-page report to the province which outlined concerns about heavy workloads, lack of accountability and some senior managers over-billing for work. Grynspan says those factors compromise patient safety. He says staffing levels may be to blame. Currently there are eight vacancies in the pathology department out of 46 positions. Grynspan says his report outlines one case where a patient’s samples were misdiagnosed.  Tory health critic Myrna Driedger says the province’s external review led by Winnipeg doctor Sharon McDonald won’t be objective.  “I think we need a totally independent external review and an auditor on that committee to look into these allegations,” says Driedger.  Arlene Wilgosh, the board chair for Diagnostic Services Manitoba, the group which oversees the province’s public labs says McDonald is bringing in a pathologist from outside the province, along with an independent labour lawyer to help in the external review.  Grynspan says he doesn’t agree with the review process and would like to see a completely external auditor do a thorough investigation of the pathology department.  http://winnipeg.ctv.ca/servlet/an/local/CTVNews/20091211/wpg_pathology_091211/20091211/?hub=WinnipegHome  
 
Emergency  Wards in Hospitals can be a deadly place.. many people pick up all kinds of sicknesses there too.. shit disease included.. http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2008/08/29/victims-of-deadly-c-difficile-outbreak/  http://anyonecare.wordpress.com/2008/05/08/shit-disease/

 
Quebec health officials  reported on Nov 28, 2009 a very insignificant drop in hospital-acquired Clostridium difficile illnesses, shit disease,  which causes serious abdominal cramping , diarrhea, and many deaths.. The number of cases fell to 4.3 cases in 10,000 from five cases. One case is still one too many now.. Good Medical, Hospital hygiene  is still essential to  battles C. difficile. The Quebec government too still  has a long way to go to dealing with this adequately as well
 
Study shows sharing a hospital room increases your risk of picking up infections  The Canadian Press –  TORONTO – A new study says sharing a hospital room increases your risk of picking up an infection during your stay.  The study, by researchers from Queen’s University in Kingston, Ont., shows that each new roommate raises your infection risk by about 10 per cent. Senior author Dr. Dick Zoutman says the findings suggest single-room hospital designs would be cheaper to build in the long run, because they would lower rates of costly hospital-acquired infections. The authors looked at rates of three common hospital infections among patients admitted to a southeastern Ontario hospital during a 4 1/2 year period ending in 2005. Previous studies have shown that rates of hospital infections are higher in multi-bed settings than when patients are housed one to a room. But few studies have actually looked at whether the number of roommates you have in hospital increases your risk of developing an infection like C. difficile or drug-resistant Staph aureus.
 
http://ca.news.yahoo.com/s/capress/100105/national/hospital_infections_roommates 
 
Visitor restrictions in place at Trenton and Belleville hospitals – ‎Dec 31, 2009‎ Trenton Memorial Hospital’s inpatient unit is closed to visitors following an outbreak of the Norovirus.  Quinte Health Care (QHC) announced the closure following a number of patients contracting a gastrointestinal illness , the Norovirus, on Wednesday, Dec. 30. Belleville General Hospital’s Quinte 6 ward is also closed due to the same gastrointestinal illness.  The Norovirus is highly contagious with symptoms including diarrhea, nausea and vomiting. Increased infection control procedures and visitor restrictions have been put in place..  Noroviruses are found in the stool or vomit of infected people. People can become infected with the virus in several ways, including: People are reminded not to visit patients at any QHC site if they are sick. Visitors must wash their hands upon entering and leaving the unit and they should not use the patient’s washrooms or kitchens, rather they should go elsewhere.. Norovirus is also called viral gastroenteritis, food poisoning, and calicivirus. Noroviruses and Salmonella are a leading cause of foodborne illness outbreaks. Norovirus affects people of all ages.  Outbreaks of norovirus infection also often occur in closed or semi-closed communities, such as long-term care facilities, overnight camps, hospitals, prisons, dormitories, and cruise ships where the infection spreads very rapidly by either person-to-person transmission or through contaminated food.  Many Norovirus outbreaks have been traced to food that was handled by the  infected person. Norovirus is rapidly inactivated by sufficient heating and by chlorine-based disinfectants, but the virus is less susceptible to alcohols and detergents   

QHC OUTBREAK:The highly contagious noro-virus is spreading to other hospitals. CKWS

Northumberland News – Belleville Intelligencer

 Hospital, medical administrators should consider cheap, disposable, paper, clothing for  all medical staff seriously!!! and save money on costs of medical diseases not being spread..

 
NOW WE HAVE ALL THE MEDICAL EXPERTS WARNING US ALL about the new diseases that are resistant to antibiotics, when the basic reality is that an ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure HERE TOO, and that applies basically  to the too common shit disease, the brown plaque,  and the common dirty toilet utensils found in bathrooms, patient rooms, hospitals and NURSING HOMES  as well..
 
OTTAWA – Ottawa-area hospitals are seeing a growing number of sick people   linked to the Norovirus, a highly contagious stomach bug, mostly related to food poisonings, which causes nausea, vomiting, diarrhea and stomach cramps, and people can carry the virus before they develop symptoms and it can be passed easily to vulnerable Hospital patients. Closing a ward that is affected by the related diarrhea and vomiting is essential to limit the spread of the infection. The hospital-based patients with the symptoms are placed  in isolation, as are  the affected staff, as there is no specific treatment for the infection, so isolation is the only way to prevent it spreading. “Staff affected by diarrhea and vomiting will only return to work once they have been symptom-free for 48 hours. ” The basic only way to prevent it spreading is also to limit the number of people who come into contact with those who have been effected. Additional people who are sick are advised to stay home and avoid visiting crowded places such as schools, hospitals, daycare centres and nursing homes until at least 48 hours after their nausea or vomiting has passed. Hospital visitors are to make sure they wash their hands before and after visiting to prevent it from further spreading .  People have also been advised to avoid bringing young children to the hospital. My personal inspection of a local Montreal hospital  was that too many of the hand wash dispensers available  are empty and are not being refilled ASAP.
 
SHARING A BATHROOM WITH A SICK PERSON IS REALLY, REALLY DANGEROUS.. NOT JUST THE ROOM…
  
An elderly polish persons on the LGH geriatric hospital floor takes her clothes off, shits in bed, rambles, is incoherent.. and the medical staff say it is none of my business cause I am not her son or a Family member. But what here is what totally had surprised me.. when her son and nephew, nieces came to see her, she was totally coherent, recognized them, spoke to them in English, and she asked them to be taken home.. when they left she went to be crazy person again.. she needs not just medical care bit a social worker to help her.
On this same LGH floor  most of the sick people are under the same personal strain, stress, not knowing where they will need  up next or what will happen to them next.. it is part of the pain and their personal reaction problem. No one AT THIS Hospital talks to them about this.. not the chaplains even or the social workers.. someone really does needs to counsel  them now compassionately as well.
 
Many staff have talked to now  also complain about the management conflict of personal interest, the Board of directors of this typical McGill Hospital are doctors, who tend to mainly insure more money is made available to other doctors and not to the working staff.
The Hospital clearing, staff’s concern about spreading shit diseases rather  has been reduced in the last week too  and they are doing less about it..
 
IT IS A RIOT TO ME HOW PEOPLE HAVE GENERAL SOLUTIONS TO DEALING WITH THE MEDICAL INADEQUACIES AND AVOID THE LOCAL SPECIFIC SOLUTIONS. And what is the specific local solutions? Public exposure and prosecution of the guilty persons works best and serves everyone the best, that means going after the bad Hospital directors, bad doctors, bad supervisors, bad ombudsman, bad, lazy, no good  hospital staff now too.
 
I was yesterday talking to a Hospital staff directly and she too had said wise people can easily see, the staff included who the no good, lazy, inadequate, pretentious..
 
I had waited for weeks for the ombudsman to call me back at the LGH, and she did not, so I next called her.. she next had  promised to address these concerns.. seeing is believing. I await her results.
 
Vomiting bug closes three wards at Ulster Hospital  The hospital has asked visitors to wash their hands before and after visits Three wards at the Ulster Hospital in Dundonald have been closed after an outbreak of a vomiting and diarrhoea bug amongst patients. The South Eastern Health Trust has said it has put extra cleaning measures in place.  http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/uk_news/northern_ireland/8457397.stm  
 
Now any Hospital, seniors home saving money on staff, house cleaning, hygiene is a false saving   still. I really do think the Lakeshore General Hospital has learned the truth that doubling the nursing, medical and cleaning  staff pays off in the long run with less patients getting sick with infectious diseases and thus requiring less expensive medical care overall as a result too. No doubt about it all Hospitals can use and do need more staff and they next will save more money in the long run by patients nor rather getting more sicker..
Did they say that the infection was growing somewhere in the ER? Sounds like a late-night movie, but this is very serious. Who has the contract for cleaning, the same people who clean Maple Leaf Foods? Some serious Infections can be   airborne transmitted as well as the standard contact transmission, and no serious disease should be taken lightly by anyone.   http://www.cbc.ca/canada/manitoba/story/2009/12/11/mb-bacterial-infection-er-hospital.html   
 http://thenonconformer.wordpress.com/2009/07/21/listeriosis-investigator-report/
 
The poor Doctor’s, medical staff and Hospital Hygiene is still the root cause of these very serious sickness that does  NEXT LEADS TO A SIGNIFICANT EXPONENTIAL  ESCALATION OF THE MEDICAL RELATED HOSPITAL COSTS NOW TOO. YES THE HOSPITALS ARE GUILTY OF NOW SAVING MONEY IN THE WRONG PLACES.
 
Before 2007, Canadian hospitals OUTSIDE OF Quebec were not required to publicly report their in-hospital death rates.  The public release would force hospital officials to examine their internal practices and improve patient care. Reporting rates to the public allows patients to examine potential risks at their local hospitals. It also forces hospitals – everyone from the hospital boards to the CEOs to the medical and nursing staff – to compare themselves to other institutions. Dr. David Austin, chief of staff at Markham Stouffville Hospital, said the 43-point drop in the institution’s mortality rate can largely be attributed to how the hospital has improved the way its staff appropriately document patient charts. The hospital has also brought in sub-specialist physicians, including hospitalists and intensivists, to deal with specific in-patient issues.  “If you have sepsis in hospital, you have a one in three chance of dying,”   ”If you are admitted to hospital for stroke, you have a one in five chance of dying. If you are admitted to hospital for heart attack, you have a one in 10 chance of dying.” Dr. Indra Pulcins, director of indicators and performance measurement at   Canadian Institute for Health Information (CIHI), http://www.thestar.com/news/gta/article/737552–hospital-death-rates-fall-in-new-era-of-disclosure 
 
 ”Hygiene” issues plague Quebec hospitals, and “hygiene” and “abuse” and “theft” issues plague assisted care facilities for the aged.”.
” it all comes down to not being able to clean properly due to a lack of staff, lazy staff, staff that don’t how to do their jobs well. they lack teaching. a superficial job gets done at best. it is very unsanitary. we should be using bleach to clean everything. the MGH is quite dirty esp. the stretchers and bathrooms. St Mary’s is the cleanest hospital I have ever seen. start cleaning people!”
” Hate to tell you all, but go to any hospital and you will find the same thing.  This isn’t limited to just Lakeshore, although people choose to pick on it. Trust me, the bigger places are just as bad – they just have better spin doctors.”
 ”my grandmother got it at the Jewish a few months ago. “
  
Hospital death rates and the related causes are  a major cause for concern still. As basic and common sense as it may seem all doctors and nurses, support staff on a daily, continual basis do  need also to ensure their own personal hygiene, cleanliness in medical care,  at all times too,  but they still for sure do not.. Imagine this also the Doctors, nurses, staff  wearing their own dirty clothes in Hospitals, many do not even use a lab coat or a clean uniform, scrubs anymore.. unsatisfactory hygiene.  Saving money on medical scrubs costs millions in sick patients.  No matter that some of the sickness, diseases are brought to the hospital by the patients themselves, it next must not be allowed to spread through the Hospital.. Many people get more sick as a result  in emergency rooms, hospitals .  This is Unacceptable. The spread of C. difficile infection,  Sepsis  disease  is at a greater risk in hospitals or other places such as nursing homes where there are many people in close contact with one another.    Hospital employees next having their own locked toilets, does not  help the overall problem now too.. it merely is a still unacceptable admission there exist a problem here.    

 Infectious Diseases in Clinical Practice:  Clostridium difficile-Associated Disease : “The Perfect Storm” Has Arrived and it falsely kills many because it is not talked about enough too.. There should be weekly mandatory reporting of all hospital acquired infections, not just the number of Hospital deaths Have you also not noticed that most hospital patients, many of who are too too sick to get up, they do not wash their hands before they eat Personnel Cleanliness in Hopsitals and even the Hospital food ain’t always that great still too..
-All medical staff must follow  the hospital antibiotic prescribing policy and taking care that broad spectrum antibiotics are not given unnecessarily .
-They all  must wear  disposable gloves and aprons, disposable lab coats,  scrubs, when treating sick patients and those  who have C. difficile infection and when dealing with,   or cleaning equipment that could be contaminated (eg bedpans).
-There must be regularly cleaning the hospital environment, including floors and surfaces, with disinfectant or detergent to get rid of spores, infections.
-They must insure the keeping seriously sick patients, especially those  who have C. difficile infection in isolation from those who don’t.
– Keeping clean and washing one’s hands often are also essential
 
Too many Canadian professionals, workers next  become too lax when they do think they have attained some kind of job security and fail to do their duties fully too, towards all others.    

Public exposure and prosecution of the guilty is one of the best approach serving everyone’s best interest too. Cover-up, and denials are  a sad fact of life in Canada especially by our civil and public servants, including cops, doctors, hospitals, professionals, politicians, PM Stephen Harper as well..  and needless to say Doctors and Hospital have not kept  good figures  on the number of deaths even in Hospitals, and their causes too willingly too,   and what about those discharged persons who have died outside of the Hospital too? The causes of death are hard to determine especially when the governments have falsely cut back on the money available for autopsies Canada wide too.  All professionals, cops, Governments too sadly are known to hide bad things from the public.
 
“There’s so many opportunities for lapses, so even a small percentage of times when maybe things don’t happen as they should, can translate into a substantial number of cases.  It is unbelievable that in today’s society some medical staff no longer wear clean uniforms while working in Hospitals  but instead do wear their ordinary clothes , like I saw a nurse do so last week at the McGill Royal Victoria Hospital, and  this is unacceptable, it can encourage the spread of diseases, since these clothes cannot be simply removed and  replaced like a lab coat can be.” Further simple measures such as hand washing and adequately cleaning the equipment and rooms can seriously prevent the spread of infection that can lead to sepsis.  Some serious Infections can be also airborne transmitted as well as the standard contact transmission, and no serious disease should be taken lightly by anyone.  Most often the best Prevention includes Clean garments, and  regular  Hand washing. Soap and water is the most effective measure and Alcohol-based products may be used but are generally less effective since Alcohol has no effect on spores but mechanical action of hand-washing may help get rid of them. All hospital srufeces do need to be cleaned daily too. And  Eliminating or reducing the associated disease risk factors is also still essential.    http://www.cdc.gov/ncidod/dhqp/id_CdiffFAQ_HCP.html#10
 
“Another  simple change  would be to have hand-washing facilities easily available in the hospital cafeteria.  Here I have never seen a hand-washing sink in the eating area.  So, when people go to eat their meals in the cafeteria, they touch many door handles that are rich reservoirs for germs, they handle money, and then they sit down to eat, which is an open invitation to colonize their gut with resistant bacteria, which they can then easily pass on to someone else, such as a patient.  It seems such an obvious improvement to have a hand-washing sink in the eating area so that busy hospital personnel can try to keep themselves from becoming a link in the chain of infection.”
 
Not doing enough about C-dificile, or shit disease can lead to more serious medical-personal problems and can lead to the more serious  Sepsis problme which can seriously cause more personal harm,  result in extensive tissue damage, organ failure or death  to  the persons with minor infections, such as the flu or urinary tract infections, and to strike people with serious wounds, extremely weakened immune systems Early diagnosis and treatment of sepsis with antibiotics also improves the chances of recovery.  But all this take money and real effort now too. Hospital staff too often want to get paid but do not want to meet their full responsibility , and these type of persons should be immediately fired for the good of all too..
  
Clostridium difficile–associated disease (CDAD) is used to describe a constellation of illnesses caused by the toxins, A and B, produced by the C difficile bacillus  Factors such as predominant use of high risk antibiotics, reduction in house cleaning  staff, increased nursing workloads, antiquated facilities, and general changes in hospital populations (ie, increased number of immuno compromised, debilitated, and elderly patients) may also be contributing factors to resistance of treatments.  Clostridium difficile is an anaerobic, spore-forming, gram-positive bacillus.  The spores are resistant to many types of disinfectants, heat, and dryness and may persist for months on surfaces such as bed rails, commodes, electronic thermometers, stethoscopes, skin folds, and the hands of caregivers. The spores can cause disease in persons at high risk for CDAD. Three elements are required for prevention of CDAD: proper hand washing, contact isolation, and environmental measures.  Spores of C difficile tend to thrive on uncleaned hospital surfaces. For that reason, stringent daily cleaning of all hospital surfaces likely to be contaminated with feces is essential. A hypochlorite-based disinfectantor a 1:10 bleach solution is recommended.  Frequently touched surfaces such as doorknobs, light switches, call lights, television remote control devices, soap dispensers, faucets, bed rails, and telephones also require thorough daily cleaning. Hospital policies regarding dedicated equipment, dishes, linens, waste, and patient transport should be in place and enforced. Non disposable equipment such as glucose meters, cardiac monitors and electrocardiography and x-ray machines should be disinfected according to manufacturers’ guidelines. “It can be safely concluded that all of these treatments work some of the time, none work all of the time.” Hygiene care and vigilance are always still essential. Proper treatment and Prevention of dehydration is essential for patients with CDAD. Prevention is also the most important treatment.  – – Maria E. Pelleschi
 
Today, blood culture and culture techniques are the gold standard for detection of a medical infection.  The turnaround time for culture/blood culture is lengthy, ranging from 48 to 72 hours. As a result,  this can often be too late for many sick people if the disease has not been diagnosed even sooner.. or of it had not been prevented..
 
“My brother is currently a patient at UVA for the 5th week due to a severe case of sepsis. He already had his all his toes on both feet amputated along with part of his right foot. He will lose 3/4 of his index finger and some fingertips. We had never heard of sepsis before this. His PCP was treating him for a virus. He was going back to PCP for the 3rd or 4th time when he collaped in the doctors office. He was then transported to the ER where they diagnosised him. Only through the grace of GOD he is still with us. He has a long, long road to recovery ahead of him.”
 
Here is the the too often  sad unacceptable reality, news, result  complaining about any poor medical services, medical neglect, abuse, mistreatment of patients to doctors, nurses, administrators, ombudsman  too often is like talking to a brick wall.. they reaped their indifference, bad acts and sadly seem to have got used to their sins, errors, bad ways.. so now they even have to be fully exposed to all.In Montreal I have been to the English and French Hospitals and I can certainly say that the McGill run Hospitals provide some of the worst nursing, Doctor services as well.. the RVH, JGH, Lachine Hospital, and  Lakeshore General hospital included.. One rotten apple spoils the whole basket.. deal with it..  Doctors, Nurses, medical support staff  are human, they too sometimes try to get by with a minimal amount of personal effort, and so as result patients do not always get their proper medical care. A good rule is never to go to a hospital alone, doctors are  afraid of loud mouthed witnesses who can cause them to be sued for mal  practice and cause their mal practice insurance rates to go up significantly..
 
No one is immune to danger, or death, not even you, your loved ones now too. It can happen where you live.. AND IT DOES NOW TOO. It is not a pleasant site, sight, a person was alive and a few minutes later they are dead and next are being wheeled down the hall to the morgue, COVERED UP ALL IN A WHITE SHEET.. the nursing, support staff are clearly upset, the strain of helplessness gripping many of them too.. urine containers are still being left alone, allowed to be scattered on the floors in the patients rooms.. some how some of the medical personnel, support staff they  wrongfully still cannot believe that the fatal diseases are caused by poor hygiene.. after all they have been personally neglecting the hygiene aspect for a long time too.. 
   
Now about 225,000 Canadian patients a year suffer from hospital-acquired infections that substantially extend their stays, and between 8,000 and 12,000 people die annually as a result of  infection with common but dangerous infections – C. difficile, methicillin-resistant Staphylococcus aureus (MRSA) and vancomycin-resistant Enterococcus (VRE) – The infections   C. difficile, MRSA and VRE – are not airborne, but spread by contact. yet the police make a lot of noise about number of   deaths caused by speeding..  yet the police make a lot of noise about number of   deaths caused by speeding AND DRUNK DRIVERS..  we need more cops rather in the hospitals aressting the bad Health Ministers,  bad doctors and bad nurses etc.,  Now less than a hundred Canadians will die in one year due to car accidents, but thousands will die due to a hospital acquired infection? So why has not the Conservative government done too much here? they do not care about Canadian lives still? Ex-fire chief of London Ontario was jailed for child porn – Crime – and so should our health ministers be also jailed now too.. for their poor inactions..
 
And the  likely reason that roommates increase the risk of infection is that patients share a washroom. (The mantra in infection control is: One bum per toilet.) Another likely explanation involves inadequate handwashing by patients and health professionals alike; doctors and nurses sometimes don’t wash their hands between patient visits in a single room. in the meantime, there are things we can do: We should be cleaning our hands, and we should really scrutinize how we clean our hospitals.  http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/private-hospital-rooms-lower-risk-of-c-difficile/article1420448/ 
 
I am chronic believer of the “sit, wait, watch, see philosophy”.. and I like to sit and look as to what is really happening in police stations, hospitals, doctor’s offices, emergency clinics, government offices, churches too.. it is really an eye opener and a learning experience.. Now after being a half a century in Canadian Hospitals I thought I saw it all.. Until I sat this week visiting a person in a serious sick, troubled persons ward at the Pointe Claire, West island Hospital, Lake Shore General Hospital,    Pointe-Claire is a municipality located on the Island of Montreal in southwestern Quebec, Canada… and for the first time I also had no complaints… but praise for I really could not believe what I saw, the real extra effort that the medical, support staff gave to all the patients, some of them very elderly too. It is my personal observation, and that of my father that this Hospital does it’s best in dealing with sickness, infections. Now if all Hospital departments were like this.. it would be heavenly.  But a week later I found out the whole truth as to how they do provide a minimum of doctors, nurses services..
 
And the    Lakeshore Hospital battling superbug   MONTREAL – Lakeshore General Hospital posted a guard on its fourth floor west wing to limit visits to patients because of an outbreak of hospital-borne bacterial infections.Now this good hospital is already taking almost all the necessary precautions for cleanliness except it is forgetting to use rather disposable paper bed pans, and disposable paper urine containers, and as a result toilets   often remain contaminated, and I would suggest that  they do visit the LaSalle Hospital that now has successfully used them..  Let me be clear about it, Never mind the lies, spins, excuses too, One hospital death due to anyone’s bad habits, neglect is unacceptable,  one too many and all the time now too. Cleanliness is next to godliness especially in Hospitals, convalescent homes  and old ages homes now too. This neglect can open doctors and hospitals to serious rightful lawsuits too now over the death of any person.. let   also  the Quebec government now as well take proper actions here in all Hospitals too..
 
 
  ” Florence Nightingale had written rules on cleaning. Nurses need degrees and are too good to do this work now.
 ”Nurse” She’s spot on! Lazy cleaning staff- improperly supervised and trained. I recently had a “round” with management at the Bay Fairview, for the indecent ladies washroom on the 2nd floor. What is going on? Menial-type jobs, like cleaning, are contracted out to people who have no idea what sanitary conditions are. Most of us don’t live in pig-pens here in Canada, so we don’t want to see those conditions in public places. A hospital should “sparkle” and smell clean, for obvious reasons! and PS: I don’t go to The Bay anymore. It’s an insult! “

   Sepsis  last year resulted in about 30,587 hospitalizations and 9,320 deaths in Canadian hospitals excluding Quebec, In comparison, there were 30,542 hospitalizations for strokes in 2007-08, with some 6,423 deaths. Of the 49,220 hospitalizations for heart attacks, about 5,684 people died. in almost one-quarter of 2008-09 sepsis cases, patients were diagnosed after being admitted to hospital. Those who developed sepsis while in hospital were 56 per cent more likely to die than those diagnosed with sepsis before they were admitted to hospital. It is expected that the results for Quebec are just as bad if not worse.
 
Another  common way of becoming sepsis  is an oral/dental source such as a tooth infection..
 
Overuse of antibiotics  is building widespread resistance and threatening to halt vital medical treatments such as hip replacements, intensive care for premature babies and cancer therapies, health experts say. A 2002 survey that showed 60 percent of patients do not know that antibiotics do not work against viruses like flu and colds.” Patients often demand antibiotics,” she said. And doctors often think, she said, that giving in is a quicker way to deal with a demanding patients than persuading them otherwise.
 
 Many, many person still do die each year in Hospitals too from preventable medical errors ranging medical errors, drug overdoses to infections caught in the hospital. Exhausted, sleepiness, upset ,overwhelmed, stressed out medical staff   are far more likely to make an error. Teaching hospitals across the United States have moved to limit residents’ work weeks to 80 hours to reduce fatigue-related errors and what about those in Canada?
 
Mortality rates for Most Canadian hospitals are out and  the Ontario Waterloo Region has one of the best and the worst rates in the province. The Grand River Hospital out of one hundred and fifty hospitals in the province … it ranked 150 for mortality rates … the worst in the province. Unacceptable. Is it a reflection on the University of Waterloo now as well?
 
One death is one too many!!! Never mind the average statistics of death!! Canadian hospitals need  to reduce mortality rates, for severe infections are still prominent too… a new study found that nearly 10,000 patients died in hospital of sepsis in 2008,  a condition resulting from bad Hospital hygiene,  disinfection, House cleaning practices firstly. Now there is evidence that some hospital-acquired infections that lead to sepsis can be avoided by controlling the spread of infection. And while hospital standardized mortality may  appear to be decreasing overall in Canada, some unacceptable conditions, such as sepsis still remains to be dealt  with adequately, fully, immediately for reducing mortality in hospitals.  CIHI’s study shows that in 2008-2009, more than 30,500 patients were hospitalized with sepsis in Canada, not including Quebec. The study noted that just over 30 per cent of patients hospitalized with sepsis died, and that compared to 18.0 per cent for stroke patients and 9.1 per cent for heart attack patients. Studies have shown various factors such as early recognition and treatment can reduce deaths from sepsis. “There is lots of evidence that hospital-acquired infections that lead to sepsis can be prevented. Instituting the  best practices should be a priority for reducing sepsis and mortality rates,” Dr. Claudio Martin, a critical care physician at London Health Sciences Centre, At an Ontario health centre, a task force was created to adopt known best practices for early recognition and treatment on the centre’s wards and in the emergency room and developing cases on the ward have  picked up more quickly and related treatment started sooner . Not every Hospital cares to do this still because of the cost and bother in Canada. Unacceptable.
 
A poorly managed Hospital and personnel is still always rightfully unacceptable even if it is McGill. I have often been wondering why the Montreal McGill Hospitals tend to provide the basic , or pretentious services, it is cause the real doctors, professionals, self serving, greedy,  money hungry doctors  now are trying to make a buck in the private sector and are generally not available to all, even though Canada supposedly only has a fully public accessible Medicare system, and the Hospital directors who generally are doctors too go along with this too.. conflicting self interest
 
More than 9,300 hospital patients died of sepsis – a form of blood poisoning caused by infections – last year in Canada, new data reveal. Last year, there were 87,612 deaths in Canadian hospitals, excluding Quebec. Hospital deaths account for almost half of all mortality. Moreover, the number of sepsis cases has increased and the mortality rate has held steady over the past five years.  “Sepsis is one of the top causes of patient deaths in hospitals. It’s a big problem,” There has been a strong push in recent years to improve patient safety, particularly in hospitals. “It’s really not an easy problem to resolve,”  Sepsis can occur when a bacterial, fungal or viral infection moves into the bloodstream and attacks vital organs. While sepsis can develop from relatively minor infections, such as influenza or a urinary tract infection, it most often develops in people who have serious wounds or compromised immune systems, and in surgery patients with catheters.  http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news/national/blood-poisoning-a-top-cause-of-death-in-hospitals/article1396660/
 
Blood poisonings, infection traced to ER 40 affected by outbreak at Seven Oaks General Hospital  12/12/2009 1:00  A bloodstream infection has affected 40 patients at Seven Oaks General Hospital — including two who have died. The Winnipeg Regional Health Authority issued a news release late Friday afternoon, describing the situation at Seven Oaks as an outbreak in the emergency ward and asking anyone treated with intravenous medication and suffering flu-like symptoms to contact their physician. Dr. John Embil, the WRHA medical director of infection, prevention and control,  said his department became aware of the outbreak at the end of the summer when staff found a number of bloodstream infections linked to an organism known as Serrtatia marcescens.  Twenty patients were infected when Embil and hospital staff began tracking the source of the infection in late summer, and another 20 people have since been identified as also having the infection. Dr. Ricardo Lobato de Faria, the chief medical officer at Seven Oaks, said all but two of the 40 patients showed signs of the infection after they were admitted to the hospital following treatment in the emergency ward. Two others were treated in emergency and released but recalled when their blood work revealed the infection, he said.  Embil said officials’ detective work determined that the infection originated in Seven Oaks’ emergency ward but they’ve yet to learn what caused it in the first place.  http://www.winnipegfreepress.com/breakingnews/blood-infection-traced-to-er-79119197.html    
  
 
 It is always the same old problem, Doctors and medical staff continual indifference to the need of others, Hospital costs savings so the Doctors can get more money, even bad who Doctors fail to define the sicknesses soon enough. Law suits and the related bad publicity have been proven to be one of the most effective weapons in dealing with medical inadequacies.
 
 
 
Medical Errors are also still a  leading cause of Deaths. More and more people die from medical mistakes each year than from highway accidents, breast cancer, or AIDS.
 
And pharmaceutical drugs kill more people every year than are killed in traffic accidents. Many hospitalized patients suffered a serious adverse drug reaction (ADR)  and died as a result. The researchers found that over 75 per cent of these ADRs were dose-dependent, which suggests they were due to the inherent toxicity of the drugs rather than to allergic reactions. The researchers concluded that ADRs are now the fourth leading cause of death  after heart disease, cancer, and stroke. Any deaths   from  misdiagnosis of the ailment , deaths from unnecessary surgery;  from medication errors in hospitals;  deaths from other errors in hospitals;  deaths from infections in hospitals;  deaths from  adverse effects of medications, or from adverse drug reactions used to treat the illness, they  are all always still unacceptable!
 
And please do note this reality the biggest hospital complaint of really sick patients is the lack of competent nurses on duty 24 hours per day.. Hospitals provide babysitting services and not rather real medical care it seems too often.. wait till you get to the hospital and find out next firsthand what it is really like too..
 
It is stupidly amazing how many crooks, clearly bad persons, Doctors, Hospital adminstrators too,   are still so unrepentant that they do think that all they have to do is just lie some more, bully some more of their accusers and they too  will next get away with it.. well they can dream on but there is eventually a limit to the amount of lying, abuse many will take..
  The majority of news media main aim is to make more money, not rather to basically, really help the citizens. The news media likes to sell the good news, the positive spins, the sensational stories, interesting news rather than mainly dealing with real solutions to the real problems all citizens now often do face. For instance the news media too often does not state specially what is the unnecessary cause of so many hospitals deaths.. the critical items such as infection mostly due to shit diseases, poor hospital hygiene,  poor hospital managers, too often incompetent and under staffed medical personnel as well.. well I rightfully do tell the truth here too.
In 1982 I drove to Edmonton Alberta and sat directly in the Albertan Minister of Economic Development, and the Albertan Minister of Manpower, Career development, and I had asked them face to face what they were doing specially to diversify Alberta’s economy and to help to create more  jobs for Albertans.. but these useless twits still did did nothing, and they both lost their reelections, and their workers too had  let the party caucus decide what to do and so today  Alberta is in a real big big mess today.. with home prices a dropping,  home sales are going doing, many many people getting laid off, and their Alberta  government revenue is going down fast too. Alberta is in a big mess these days still too.. The Albertan politicians, leaders now  were another bunch of know it all who did not want to listen to any one else.. and such History repeats itself. 
 
Now what are we all now really doing about many people dying in all Hospitals unnecessarily these days too? Actions speak louder over mere words.. 
 
Less people do die at home these days, for it is the trend to go to the hospital when sick or dying these days too.
I had  contacted the Lakeshore General Hospital Ombudsman, but she was  still on Holidays for  WHILE too and so who really cares about the sick people’s complaints? IN FACT I HAD WRTITEN TO 3 McGill Hopsitals ombudsman and none of the results were fully satisfactory to date even..
 
  JACKSONVILLE, Fla. — A report released Thursday by the Florida Department of Law Enforcement and the Florida Medical Examiner’s Commission revealed that common prescription drugs were responsible for more deaths in 2007 than common illegal drugs.“ The rate of deaths caused by prescription drugs is over three times as high as the rate of deaths caused by all illicit drugs combined,” said Director of the Office of Drug Control Bill Janes. Deaths involving the use of oxycodone, methadone, cocaine, alcohol, and heroin all rose in 2007, that according to the report.http://swampie.wordpress.com/2008/06/12/fdle-pharmaceuticals-kill-more-than-street-drugs/
This also offers a Canadian window into the state’s overwrought preoccupation with making money at all costs, disregarding the citizens concerns too. Sadly Like too many political parties it seems the citizens mainly do not count, their views or needs, desires. they only count on election days. I was once talking to deputy Minister Ken Kowalski of Alberta about this as to why and he replied cause in Alberta they do not pay the taxes. But rather the real reason is the too often lack of respect for the all of citizens still by our leaders, civil and public servants most political parties Canada wide.. Police, RCMP’s unacceptable, poor attitudes towards most of the citizens now as well

  

 
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Dealing with a Cold or flu

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Many people perish because   of lack of knowledge, because of their ignorance..
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First Know the Difference Between Cold and Flu Symptoms and how next to deal with them.
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 Ironically some of the cold medications available can help, or instead seriously lead to heart problems.
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One of the most common recommendations on dealing with flu  is to drink plenty of fluids.. and precisely here is where many people do err, and do make themselves sicker..
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 For example taking orange or other related juices with your medications can nullify the positive effect of the medications?
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Now many people also wrongfully believe that drinking more tea, soft drinks, Coca-Cola, Pepsi is a  help here as well..  but it clearly is not.. these products contain caffeine, and caffeine helps to dehydrate you, to reduce the water, juices need to help your stomach to dissolve the food you eat, causing thus an increased stress on the both the stomach and next on the heart as well, leading to their increase  breathing difficulties problems next too. The quick and popular remedy — usually in the form of cola, ginger ale or clear sodas — is said to help settle the stomach with its slight fizz and replenish fluids and glucose lost by vomiting and diarrhea.
 
* Seniors especially need to take more care, precautions because they have a degenerated immune system that does not effectively protect them now from cold and flus, and on top of that they tend to reinfect themselves by not washing their own hands often enough, and not washing the areas they often come into contact such as door  knobs, handles, light switches, canes. A essential uncostly need, solution  is to buy a spray can of alcoholic disinfectant and to spray these places, even the whole room when you have had a flu to try to prevent it from coming back.
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A  flu shot! drink the pickle juice!

DRINK THE (fermented) PICKLE JUICE. Or the fermented sauerkraut juice. Fermented pickles and other “FERMENTS’ are packed full of good bacteria–lactobacilli–the ones that keep you well . Japanese scientists report that feeding a pickle microbe to mice infected with the flu alleviates the rodents’ symptoms.

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Your throat is so sore you can barely take a drink let alone talk to anyone and you pretty well exhausted all of the common remedies last time you had a sore throat, so what can you do to treat this sore throat and fast? Pickle juice – that’s right, gargle pickle juice for immediate, lasting relief. As unusual as it sounds, pickle juice is an effective remedy for sore throats and can actually help you heal!  Pickle juice contains two main ingredients that make it an effective treatment for sore throats – vinegar and salt. These ingredients function to cleanse the throat, fight infection, and reduce inflammation. Vinegar even helps balance out the body’s pH to establish a more controlled level of health and wellness.  The pickle juice helped tremendously!!! I used 3 tablespoons of pickle juice ….warmed it … then drank automatically it cleared my sinuses.  DO NOT ATTEMPT THIS PICKLE JUICE REMEDY WITHOUT FOOD IN YOUR STOMACH!
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I also tried the apple cider vinegar, honey and hot water for my sore throat and the pain went away almost immediately after the first sip. The honey & apple cider vinegar relieved the  pain.
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A bout of flu typically lasts one to two weeks, with severe symptoms subsiding in two to three days. However, weakness, fatigue, dry cough, and a reduced ability to exercise can linger for three to seven days.
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Best Foods for Cold-Like Symptoms

Broth-Based Soup.  . Now this one isn’t just an old wives’ tale—chicken noodle soup actually can help soothe a cold. …

Rice , bland foods that are easy on the stomach. … eggs,

Spicy and Acidic Foods.

Raw Tomatoes. …
Raw Citrus Fruits. …
Raw Garlic. …
Raw Ginger. …
Raw Avocado.
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When you have a fever, drink fluids to avoid dehydration.  Drink at least 2 liters each day of liquids With a fever, appetite is low (or gone), and most important is to remain hydrated.  Water, soup, fruit juice, and hot tea with lemon are all good choices. If fever is uncomfortable, sponge your body with lukewarm water to reduce fever. Do not use cold water or ice. Lowering the fever will not make your symptoms go away faster, but it may make you more comfortable Sip clear drinks to keep your fluids up , juices, sports drinks, ginger ale, clear broths, gelatin, and ice pops. Start with small amounts, like 4 to 8 ounces at a time for adults and 1 ounce or less at a time for children. Only use clear liquids (clear broth, juice, lemon-lime soda).
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Take a Steamy Shower  Steamy showers moisturize your nasal passages and relax you. If you’re dizzy from the flu, run a steamy shower while you sit on a chair nearby and take a sponge bath.

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Sleep With an Extra Pillow Under Your Head This will help with the drainage of nasal passages.

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Menthol Menthol products, Vaseline, tiger balm,  have a strong smell that can cut through blocked noses. A small dab of cream or gel under the nose can help open up blocked nasal passages and may sooth skin under the nose that may have become tender from a lot of nose blowing.

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What causes colds and the flu?

Viruses. Over 100 different viruses can cause colds. There aren’t as many viruses that cause the flu. That’s why there’s a shot for the flu and not for colds.

What can you do to feel better?

There’s no cure for a cold or the flu. Antibiotics don’t work against viruses. All you can do to feel better is treat your symptoms while your body fights off the virus (see below).

Ways to treat your cold/flu symptoms

  • Stay home and rest, especially while you have a fever.
  • Stop smoking and avoid secondhand smoke, which can make cold symptoms worse.
  • Drink plenty of fluids like water, fruit juices and clear soups. Fluids help loosen mucus. Fluids are also important if you have a fever because fever can dry up your body’s fluids, which can lead to dehydration.
  • Don’t drink alcohol.
  • Gargle with warm salt water a few times a day to relieve a sore throat. Throat sprays or lozenges may also help relieve the pain.
  • Use saline (salt water) nose drops to help loosen mucus and moisten the tender skin in your nose.

Should you take medicine for a cold or the flu?

No medicine can cure a cold or the flu. Medicine can, however, help relieve some of your cold or flu symptoms. Check with your doctor before giving any medicine to children.

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  Notice the importance of washing hands, since some viruses seem able to live up to 3 weeks on door knobs, etc., and hands are a common method of spreading a virus to your moth and next to the rest of your body
  
Symptom Cold Flu
Fever Fever is rare with a cold. Fever is usually present with the flu in up to 80% of all flu cases. A temperature of 100°F or higher for 3 to 4 days is associated with the flu.
Coughing A hacking, productive (mucus- producing) cough is often present with a cold. A non-productive (non-mucus producing) cough is usually present with the flu (sometimes referred to as dry cough).
Aches Slight body aches and pains can be part of a cold. Severe aches and pains are common with the flu.
Stuffy Nose Stuffy nose is commonly present with a cold and typically resolves spontaneously within a week. Stuffy nose is not commonly present with the flu.
Chills Chills are uncommon with a cold. 60% of people who have the flu experience chills.
Tiredness Tiredness is fairly mild with a cold. Tiredness is moderate to severe with the flu.
Sneezing Sneezing is commonly present with a cold. Sneezing is not common with the flu.
Sudden Symptoms Cold symptoms tend to develop over a few days. The flu has a rapid onset within 3-6 hours. The flu hits hard and includes sudden symptoms like high fever, aches and pains.
Headache A headache is fairly uncommon with a cold. A headache is very common with the flu, present in 80% of flu cases.
Sore Throat Sore throat is commonly present with a cold. Sore throat is not commonly present with the flu.
Chest Discomfort Chest discomfort is mild to moderate with a cold. Chest discomfort is often severe with the flu.
 
How do I treat a cold?
  • There is no cure for the common cold. You  can simply ease the symptoms while you have a cold.
  • Get plenty of rest and fluids

Take an Over the Counter medication to make yourself more comfortable by easing symptoms.

How do I treat the flu?
  • Like  the cold, there is no single “cure” for the flu. Look to ease symptoms while you have the flu.
  • Because the symptoms are similar, many of the treatments that work to ease cold symptoms also ease flu symptoms.
  • See a doctor if your symptoms include trouble breathing, faintness or very high fever.
How do I prevent colds and flus?
  • A good, healthy lifestyle including adequate sleep, moderate exercise and a balanced diet will help keep you and your immune system strong.
  • Wash your hands often and avoid touching your mouth and nose with your hands.
  • Avoid crowded places during the peak of cold and flu season.
What should I know about the flu vaccine?
  • The flu vaccine comes in two forms: injection and nasal mist.
  • The vaccine is not 100 percent effective in preventing the flu, but is generally believed to be about 70 to 90 percent effective.
  • Because the flu virus is constantly changing, you must get the flu vaccine every year, preferably at the beginning of flu season, in order for it to be most effective.

How can you tell if you have a cold or the flu?

A cold and the flu cause many of the same symptoms. But a cold is generally mild, while the flu tends to be more severe.

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Emergency Cold/Flu Symptoms:

In children:

  • High (above 102 F) or prolonged fever
  • A cold that lasts for more than 10 days
  • Trouble breathing, fast breathing or wheezing
  • Bluish skin color
  • Not drinking enough fluids
  • Earache or drainage from the ear
  • Changes in mental state (such as not waking up, irritability or seizures)
  • Flu-like symptoms that improve, but return with a fever and a worse cough
  • Worsening of chronic medical condition (such as diabetes or heart disease)

In adults:

  • High (above 102 F) or prolonged fever
  • A cold that lasts for more than 10 days
  • Trouble breathing or shortness of breath
  • Pain or pressure in the chest
  • Fainting or feeling like you are about to faint
  • Confusion or disorientation
  • Severe or persistent vomiting
  • Severe pain in your face or forehead
  • Hoarseness, sore throat or a cough that won’t go away

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Sleepless nights equal more colds in US study
Reuters –  WASHINGTON (Reuters) – People who sleep less than seven hours a night are three times as likely to catch a cold as their more well-rested friends and neighbours, US researchers reported on Monday.
Good night’s sleep may prevent a cold, study finds Boston Globe
7 Tips on Fighting Off a Cold U.S. News & World Report
Washington Post – Minneapolis Star Tribune – WebMD – AHN
all 422 news articles »
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All the adds, promises, health claims, advice on the net are to be   taken   with a grain of salt ? “(With) a grain of salt”, (or “a pinch of salt”) is an idiom of the English language, which means to view something with skepticism or not to interpret something literally. Meaning to take something lightly. In Latin the word for salt is the same as the word for wisdom One should to take into consideration the source of the information as possibly unreliable or prone to exaggeration and therefore the information itself should be “seasoned” to adjust for that bias.

One needs to be cautious about believing the information he has received.

https://postedat.wordpress.com/2018/01/30/take-it-with-a-grain-of-salt/

Stressful Sibling rivalry

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Money, the love of money is the root of all evil, most people may not admit but they are mostly busy trying to get richer, and are involved in fighting to get it, even family members.
Did you know that sibling rivalry, abuse is one of the most common forms of family violence, acts?
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Proverbs 10- 22 The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it.
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Siblings will use also physical violence because they have learned it from their parents, a bad mother or a bad father,  or other adults. In fact, one study found that 76% of the children who were repeatedly abused by their parents also abused their siblings.. and their spouse next too..
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ACTS 16:16 Now it happened, as we went to prayer, that a certain slave girl possessed with a spirit of divination met us, who brought her masters much profit by fortune-telling.17 This girl followed Paul and us, and cried out, saying, “These men are the servants of the Most High God, who proclaim to us the way of salvation.”18 And this she did for many days. But Paul, greatly annoyed, turned and said to the spirit, “I command you in the name of Jesus Christ to come out of her.” And he came out that very hour

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JUST BECAUSE A PERSON IS TELLING THE TRUTH LIKE THE ABOVE GIRL WHO FOLLOWED PAUL DOESN’T MEAN THEY WAS NOT POSSESSED WITH A SPIRIT OF DIVINIATION

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Eph 4:32  And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Eph 5:1  Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children;
Eph 5:2  And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour.
Eph 5:3  But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints;
Eph 5:4  Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks.
Eph 5:5  For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God.
Eph 5:6  Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience.
Eph 5:7  Be not ye therefore partakers with them.
Eph 5:8  For ye were sometimes darkness, but now are ye light in the Lord: walk as children of light:
Eph 5:9  (For the fruit of the Spirit is in all goodness and righteousness and truth;)
Eph 5:10  Proving what is acceptable unto the Lord.
Eph 5:11  And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness, but rather reprove them.
Eph 5:12  For it is a shame even to speak of those things which are done of them in secret.
Eph 5:13  But all things that are reproved are made manifest by the light: for whatsoever doth make manifest is light.
Eph 5:14  Wherefore he saith, Awake thou that sleepest, and arise from the dead, and Christ shall give thee light.
Eph 5:15  See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise,
Eph 5:16  Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.
Eph 5:17  Wherefore be ye not unwise, but understanding what the will of the Lord is.
Eph 5:18  And be not drunk with wine, wherein is excess; but be filled with the Spirit;
Eph 5:19  Speaking to yourselves in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing and making melody in your heart to the Lord;
Eph 5:20  Giving thanks always for all things unto God and the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ;
Eph 5:21  Submitting yourselves one to another in the fear of God.

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And one solution is not talk to them anymore.. often you have to put your foot down and tell them to get lost forever if need be.

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Many people have this false, wrong concept that one can reason with a fool, they can be helped… rarely is that so (Prov 17:10 KJV)  A reproof entereth more into a wise man than an hundred stripes into a fool.

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Many professing Christian persons see themselves as teachers, facilitators, coordinators, leaders, when in fact they are still just dictators, bullies, some even immoral agressive jungle fighters, control freaks who need to repent..  http://postedat.wordpress.com/2008/07/07/control-freaks/

Everyone  needs to set boundaries on what is acceptable behavior. No verbal abuses, no bullying, no lying, no foul languages, no hitting or other violence should be allowed. Another step parents can take to prevent abuse between siblings is to model their own respectful behavior in your family. Children learn how to interact with others by observing them.

Do a check-up on your family and others  this week:
Do you treat your children. others respectfully?
Do your children treat each other respectfully?
Are your children hitting each other when conflicts occur?
Do you have Home, office, internet rules in place for acceptable behavior?

You may need to call a family meeting to work out problem-solving strategies before rough housing turns to abuse, unacceptable violence

http://unlforfamilies.unl.edu/

 Info on Sibling rivalry, young offenders, gangs, mafia, war

(Psalm 133:1 KJV)  Behold, how good and how pleasant it is for brethren to dwell together in unity!

Sibling rivalry is a type of sinful, selfish competition or animosity among brothers and sisters, blood-related or not..
  the sibling bond is often complicated and is influenced by factors such as parental treatment, birth order, personality, and people and experiences outside the family. Sibling rivalry is particularly intense when children are very close in age and of the same gender, or where one child is intellectually gifted, or one child has received or attains  a bigger inheritance, earning, position, status in life. Adolescents fight for the same reasons younger children fight,  Fighting with siblings as a way to get attention, power  may increase in adolescence. Events even such as a strained marriage may  drive them seriously  apart. Sibling Rivalry in the Bible – sample cases: Cain and Abel, Esau and Jacob, and Joseph and his brothers., Leah and Rachel, and today’s counterpart is the conflicts between the Arabs and the Jews, gangs, Mafia

(Prov 15:1 KJV)  A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.

Sibling rivalry, war is the jealousy, competition and fighting between the unloving and/or  unloved brothers and sisters firstly, and with others next too.  It is a concern for almost all parents of two or more kids. Problems often start right after the birth of the second child.  Sibling rivalry usually continues throughout childhood and even adulthood, it can be very embarrassing, frustrating and stressful to parents.  There some things parents can do to help their young kids get along better and work through conflicts in positive ways and  help you keep the peace at your house.

Sibling rivalry, war  is as old as the children of Adam and Eve and is too often recorded now as a sin in the Bible as well that has negative consequences on the persons involved and even others.

The real sad part is that many adults play also this false game still too.. Conquer and destroy!

Sibling rivalry can also be caused by proximity in age. Research suggests that siblings that are within two years’ age of one another tend to have more sibling rivalry than other siblings.  Ultimately, sibling rivalry is often caused not only by by blocked goals but by  poor personal communication skills, bad or extreme values,  just like almost any other sorts of adult conflicts and wars

There are many factors that contribute to sibling rivalry:

-Past and present neglect of the siblings by the parents will top it all.. there are overarching sorts of factors and events that can be, ultimately, the root causes of any sibling rivalry. Knowing what these important factors and events are can help you to not only understand the causes of sibling rivalry, but to deal with sibling rivalry more effectively when it does occur. Some of the most common causes of sibling rivalry tends to be jealousy or selfishness.
-Each child, person  is mostly competing to define who they are as an individual.  As they discover who they are, they try to find their own talents, activities, and interests.  They want to show that they are separate from their siblings.
-Rejected Children, Adults too  feel they are getting unequal amounts of your attention, discipline, and responsiveness.
-Children often may feel their relationship with their parents is threatened by the arrival of a new baby.
-A  children’s and an Adult’s developmental stages affect how well they can share your attention and get along with one another.
-Children and adults  who are hungry, bored or tired, nervous, stressed out  are more likely to start fights.
– Too many Children, adults too  do not know positive ways to get attention from their brother or sister, so they pick fights.
– Family dynamics play a serious role here as well when one of the parent  neglect one of their children, or shows a false favoring, partiality,. We are reminded this happened in the biblical account of Joseph and his brothers due to his new coat of many colors,
– Children, adults  will fight more with each other in families where there is no set bounders, understanding that their fighting is not an acceptable way to resolve conflicts.
– All Families that don’t share enjoyable times together will probably have more family conflict next exasperated by a jealous immoral, insecure, poor self esteem  spouse(s)  of the siblings now too
– Unresolved Stress, poor health  in the parent’s lives will often  decrease the amount of still need attention parents give the children and thus increase the sibling rivalry.
– Stress in the  children’s lives will next  shorten their fuses, and create more conflict, cause significant home, community  and even health problems as well

So how the good and bad parents do now still treat their kids, children and how they do now react to conflict will  make a big difference in how well siblings get along.

The degree of existence of sibling rivalry, young offenders, gangs  tends to show how good of a parent, manager, administrator now you really were, are.

“as many as 53 out of every 100 children abuse a brother or sister, higher than the percentage of adults who abuse their children or their spouse. What some kids do to their brother or sister inside the family would be called assault outside the family. As parents, we may be tempted to ignore fighting and quarrelling between children. We may view these activities as a normal part of growing up. We say, “Kids will be kids” or “They’ll grow out of it.”   However, thousands of adult survivors of sibling abuse tell of the far-reaching negative effects that such unchecked behavior has had on them as children and adults. Children often abuse a brother or sister, usually younger than themselves, to gain power and control. One explanation for this is that the abusive child (generally with a poor self esteem) feels powerless, neglected and insecure. He or she may feel strong only in relation to a sibling being powerless. The feeling of power children experience when they mistreat a brother or sister often reinforces their decision to repeat the abuse “  http://www.sasian.org/papers/rivabuse.htm

 

 

Why do we hear of the Russian Mafia, and the Asian Gangs now more increasing, because their parents have neglected them while they were busy trying to get rich, richer.(James 4:1 KJV)  From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?
2  Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.
3  Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.
4  Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
5  Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy?
6  But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.
7  Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
8  Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
9  Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness.
10  Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.
11  Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.
12  There is one lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy: who art thou that judgest another?
13  Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain:
14  Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away.
15  For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that.
16  But now ye rejoice in your boastings: all such rejoicing is evil.
17  Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.
5:1  Go to now, ye rich men, weep and howl for your miseries that shall come upon you.
2  Your riches are corrupted, and your garments are motheaten.
3  Your gold and silver is cankered; and the rust of them shall be a witness against you, and shall eat your flesh as it were fire. Ye have heaped treasure together for the last days.(Prov 22:6 KJV)  Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it
 
.- Train your children firstly in the right way.. neglect any of them and everyone next will pay the negative price..
– Tell them that being self centered, selfish, concerned only about their own needs, desires is still an unacceptable sin, negative approach.
– Don’t play favorites or refuse to forgive, do not take sides as well. Your children need to learn that you will do your best to meet each of their unique needs.
– Never compare your children.
– Don’t typecast.  Let each child be who they are.  Don’t try to pigeonhole or label them
– Set your kids up to cooperate rather than compete.
– Teach your kids positive ways to get attention from each other.
– Don’t yell or lecture.  It really won’t help at all..
– Listen—really listen—to how your children feel about what’s going on in the family. and next also act upon it positively. They seek the parent’s help first often,  They may not be so demanding if they know you at least care how they feel. “When parents falsely unwisely crash, jump into sibling spats, they often protect one child (usually the younger sibling) against the other (usually the older one).  This escalates the conflict, because the older child resents the younger, and the younger feels that they can get away with more since the parent is “on their side.”  ”
– Celebrate your children’s differences, positive aspects and not mainly their negatives.
– Let each child know they are still unique and special— accept them, you love and care for them, just for whom they are.
– Encourage win-win negotiations, where each side gains something.
– If you are constantly angry at your kids, no wonder they are angry at each other!  Anger feeds on itself.  Learn to manage your anger, so you can teach your children how to manage theirs.
– learn, Teach conflict resolution skills during calm times.
– Personally Model good conflict resolution skills for your kids.
– Try to Involve your children in setting ground rules.
– Enforced Ground rules, with clear and consistent consequences for breaking them, can help prevent many squabbles.
 Siblings often do fight for a number of reasons:
-They fight because they want a parent’s or other person’s attention, especially where the parent has only so much time, attention and patience to give.
-They fight because they are selfish, jealous: “He got a new bike. I didn’t. They must love him more than they love me.”
-They even fight over ordinary teasing which is a way of testing the effects of behavior and words on another person: “He called me…” “But she called me…first.”
-They fight because they are growing up in a competitive, aggressive, self centered, worldly, dog eat dog,   society that falsely teaches them that to get it, to win is to be better than to be the loser. “I saw it first.” “I beat you to the water.”Lessons about jealousy, competition, sharing and kindness are difficult to learn, and, indeed, even many adults still still haven’t learned them. Too many adolescent may not recognize, admit still  their needs or may be too embarrassed to express them verbally, so their ongoing fighting with siblings is a way to get their needs,  personal  attention which often next  actually increase in adolescence life.
A Parent’s Checklist
As a parent, do you:
-Set aside some time to be alone with each child?
-Recognize that each child is different?
-Make sure your adolescents realize they are each unique and have a special set of strengths?
-Praise adolescents for being who they are and not just for what they can do?
-Avoid initiating competition among children?
-Realize adolescents and younger children need to be given the right also to decide not to share at least some of the time?
-Be sure older children are not usually forced to give in to younger ones because “he’s little” or “she doesn’t know better?”
-Talk positively to the adolescents about their fighting?
-Falsely encourage, promote the sibling fighting?So the still mostly useless Albertan Prime Minister Stephen Harper and federal Justice Minister Rob Nicholson MP want to get tough on the young offenders, instead of on the parents, show to us all how ignorantly they are and very poor parents now too.. They clearly themselves firstly need to be educated.Resolving the Conflicts requires still anger management too and  :Admitting, recognizing the stress issue.
Effectively dealing with the issue in a positive manner… For the matters left on their own to be resolved   tend to get worse and not betterThe instinctive, natural way it seems is merely to immediacy, feel anger, to  express our anger and to to respond  immediately aggressively as well.. not much self control obvious.. as opposed to a planed, deliberate, calculated, thought our approach.When you are angry, you probably feel:

muscle tension
accelerated heartbeat
a “knot” or “butterflies” in your stomach
changes in your breathing
trembling
goose bumps
flushed in the face

You can reduce the rush of adrenaline that’s responsible for your heart beating faster, your voice sounding louder, and your fists clenching if you:

Take a few slow, deep breaths and concentrate on your breathing.
Imagine yourself at a better place, the beach, by a lake, or anywhere that makes you feel calm and peaceful.
Try other thoughts or actions that have helped you relax in the past.

“Calm down.”
“I don’t need to prove myself.”
“I’m not going to let him/her get to me.”

This often Aggressive Anger is a  response to  our perceived threats; it inspires powerful, often visible  feelings and behaviors. But we can’t physically lash out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us; laws, social norms, and for most of us our own common sense places valid limits on how far our anger can take us.

Stop. Consider the consequences. Think before you act. Try to find positive or neutral explanations for what that person did that provoked you.  Learn to recognize what sets you off and how anger feels to you. Learn to think through the benefits of controlling your anger and the consequences of losing control. Control your own  behavior, don’t let anger control you.

Identify the problem, problem behavior. Isolate it from the emotions associated with it and evaluate it.  How often does it happen and how long can  it go on?  What is the purpose of the behavior? If it tears down another person, it is abusive.  If you suspect abuse, it’s important to act quickly to stop it. Do not hesitate to bring it into the open, to expose it next to all for what it really is, unacceptable abuse. Get enough fact and feeling information to assess the problem accurately. Restate the problem to make sure you understand it clearly. Figure out alternative solutions to the problem.

We face a choice  to deal with their angry feelings  such as expressing our anger, suppressing our outrage, and submissiveness, calming Ourselves, controlling our outward behavior, but also controlling our internal responses, taking steps to lower our heart rate, calm yourself down, and letting  the emotional feelings subside.

Assertiveness is expressing our anger in love ,without hurting others. Being assertive here doesn’t mean being pushy or demanding; it means being respectful of yourself and others.

Anger turned inward may cause next  hypertension, high blood pressure,  a self pity complex, or depression.

” Unexpressed specific anger can create other problems. It can lead to pathological expressions of anger, such as passive-aggressive behavior (getting back at people indirectly, without telling them why, rather than confronting them head-on) or a personality that seems perpetually cynical and hostile. People who are constantly putting others down, criticizing everything, and making cynical comments haven’t learned how to constructively express their anger. Not surprisingly, they aren’t likely to have many successful relationships. ”

Anger management  reducing  both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can’t always get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions, and express, act in a positive manner, for the good of all.

It’s best to find out what it is that triggers your anger, and then to develop strategies to deal with and to keep those triggers from tipping you over the edge.

Remind yourself that merely getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won’t make you feel better (and may actually make you feel worse). You need to focus on the problem and deal with it effectively;

Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it’s justified, can quickly become irrational. So use cold hard logic, Such as ” you’re just experiencing some of the rough spots of daily life. Normal  people tend expect : fairness, appreciation, agreement, willingness, congenital agreements. The first best attitude to bring to such a problem situation, then, is not to focus on solely now finding the solution, but rather firstly on how you handle and face the problem.

Set ground rules to prevent emotional abuse, and stick to them. For example, make it clear you will not put up with name-calling, teasing, belittling, intimidating,   provoking, cheating, lying, stealing, bullying, physical abuses, intimidations and you will firmly deal with it too. Living with bad, fighting adolescent siblings is not pleasant. Clearly show all of the  adolescents the cost of fighting is higher than the falsely expected reward.

Next  tell of the trouble makers, bad adolescents that while it’s normal to have disagreements, the constant fighting upsets you  and you  value peace at home. You also can  can say they will no longer be the judge and jury over the siblings’, adolescents  disputes, wars  and you merely will not stand for it, put up with it and stand by the resolution with firm action!

Timing: use a controlled, well thought out  response to Control the event on your own time, and don’t merely be hastily suckered into facing, dealing with it unprepared. Also now do Give yourself a regular break from the conflicts, stressful situations. Make sure always too you have some “personal time” scheduled for times of the day, the place  that you know are particularly stressful.  One’s Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you feel angry at the set “trap” you seem again to have fallen into and all the people and things that form that trap. Sometimes it’s our unavoidable immediate surroundings that give us continual, ongoing, unavoidable  cause for irritation and fury. If need be do next Remove yourself permanently from the environment, for your own good health firstly . One does not have to put with with these mostly false conflicts forever.

Set clear consequences for broken rules.  What will happen if they break the rules? For example, one husband told his wife he would no longer spoil his wife, indulge in all of her false whims, desires, abuses, but next would not merely give her two  alternative choices beforehand, one would lead to a reward, one whole lead to negative personal consequences for her.  Choice one – resolve the conflicts peacefully, amiably.  Or if she continued to cause false problems, fighting he would merely fire her, terminate the relationship, divorce the marriage. He next  was forced to take the second alternative.

“I agree, that this is a horrible situation and not a marriage – get out before you are seriously hurt. I also don’t believe in an eye for an eye and certainly not hurting anyone. I never believe that violence is the answer to anything. Notwithstanding  she shouldn’t ever abuse you, verbally or physically. She is not stable at all, forget on trying next to figure out why as well, as she needs professional help.  No one needs to stay in an abusive relationship.  This woman is really terrible and with no self control . If you don’t know how to set and enforce your boundaries, please do get help here. You do deserve much better than an abusing wife with mental issues.  I also suspect that she is well aware of her actions. She is conniving and manipulating you too – and  why would you even consider crawling back to her? She is treating you this way because you  have wrongfully  enabled her to do so. .I too  not saying that it is your fault, but I am saying that there are true bad persons, about 30 percent of all persons,  now still  in the world who can sense other people’s weakness from a mile way and they try to capitalize on that vulnerability through abuse. How does she deserve you? Why in the first place do you even  think you deserve to be treated this way? Surely you know by now that she really does does not make a good wife? You really are essentially rewarding her shocking behavior by putting up with her bad acts.  You truly can’t change her behavior but you can now change yours. NO MATTER WHAT YOU ARE LIKE, HOW SINCERE YOU ARE TOO, ONE  never does not deserve to have to live like this, to have to put up with living with an emotional/physical  and/or alcoholic  abuser, bad spouse, even a clear control freak too. You first do need to keep yourself safe now, next from this woman and when you  do  leave do not  go back.  You really can’t force, make your wife stop her bad acts, so you need to decide whether you want to try to unlikely  salvage the marital relationship at all. If you do, you need to tell her that you will only stay in the marriage is if she gets treatment for her abusive nature . And also only  if she never does it again. That means no abuse at all, none – the emotional as well as the physical abuse. The  sole likley serious option now is just to call it quits. There’s nothing wrong with this option. Not everyone deserves another chance. She may not, does . If your wife doesn’t accept that she has a problem and isn’t willing to accept help, you do have to get a separation and also now  put everything out in the open, even  in courts, so you can actually get your life back..  She is merely reaping what she has sowed. Leave her and let her sort herself out. It is unlikely she ever will too.  Protect yourself, look after yourself anyway. After finding myself in a similar situation, I left.  Since then, things have never been better.  I met my ex wife 6 months later, and she immediately said to me, I udenerstand that your are happier living without me,  and I replied that no thanks to her that was true. 30 years later it is still true too.”
” In today’s society it is assumed that men are the physical abusers of women and in cases of emotional and/or physical abuse of men it is seen that the man has instigated this so the woman has simply retaliated to abuse of the man and the man is still held accountable.  Unfortunately, as with so many relationship or child issues the woman is more readily believed and the man more readily blamed. I’m a woman in my 40’s and have been through the family court system over the past 10 years and I have seen a lot of what happens in these cases from both the man and the woman’s point of view. ” men and women are equal sinners.”

“I’d like to wrongfully say “beat the sh*t out of her”, but fortunately you wouldn’t get away with it. Instead, do everyone a good service,  just toss her out, she’s an abusive parasite and doesn’t deserve any husband. ““One father reported that every time a fight started, he would say to his adolescents, “You’re fighting. I’m leaving.” And then he would go out to work in the yard or take a drive or run an errand — but he simply walked away from the fighting. A mother used a similar tactic. When the fighting began, she said, “Call me when it’s over.” Then she went to her bedroom, slamming the door to emphasize her point. Another parent made his adolescents leave the house when they began fighting. “In each of these cases, the parents, adolescents  demonstrated that their ongoing fighting would not get their attention and they would not get involved in the fight.Do not hesitate to Remove yourself  from the problem behavioral  person, or remove the root cause of the problem child , adultThe angered people tend to jump to-and act on-conclusions, and some of those conclusions can be very inaccurate. The first thing to do if you’re in a heated discussion is slow down and think through your responses. Don’t say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering.  Listen, too, to what is underlying cause of your  anger. It’s natural to get defensive when you’re criticized, but don’t fight back. Instead, listen to what’s underlying the words: the message that this person might feel neglected and unloved. It may take a lot of patient questioning on your part, and it may require some breathing space, but don’t let your anger-or a partner’s-let a discussion spin out of control. Keeping your cool can keep the situation from becoming a disastrous one.Instead of doing nothing, which postpones the inevitable anyway. Seek, get sound advice, the valid  opinion of others too. Make a plan, and check your progress along the way. Resolve to give it your best, but also not to punish yourself if an answer doesn’t come right away. If you can approach the conflicts, fight  it with your best intentions and efforts and make a serious attempt to face it head-on, you will be less likely to lose patience and fall into all-or-nothing thinking, even if the problem does not get solved right away.

Remember, you can’t eliminate anger-and it wouldn’t be a good idea if you could. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you anger; and sometimes it will be justifiable anger. Life will be filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can’t change that; but you can change the way you let such events affect you. Controlling effectively your angry responses can keep them from making you even more unhappy in the long run.

Negative Results of unchecked Sibling Rivalry or Sibling Abuse : Thousands of adult survivors of sibling abuse can readily tell of the far-reaching negative effects that such unchecked behavior has had on them as children and even as adults. For instance, one person, reflecting back on their relationship with   a brother wrote: “I believed EVERYTHING my brother told me. Even if it was lies to make himself look better.  Children and adults often still do wrongfully abuse a brother or sister  to falsely try to  gain power and control.

Hey it is just classical psychology   that If you notice the following warning signs in a person  over a period of time, the potential for increased unacceptable physical  violence by them next also exists:

a history of aggressive, abnormal, offensive behavior
serious drug or alcohol abuse
gang membership or strong desire to be accepted by the gang, to be in a gang
threatening others regularly
trouble controlling feelings like anger
withdrawal from good friends and from the normal, usual, acceptable  activities
visibly feeling rejected or alone
having been a victim of bullying, or now being a bully themselves
poor school or job performance
history of discipline problems or frequent run-ins with authority
feeling constantly disrespected
failing to acknowledge the feelings  rights of others
or failing to acknowledge  the abuse of others
access to or fascination with weapons, especially guns

When you recognize these unacceptable future increased violence warning signs in someone else deal with it.   Hoping that someone else will deal with the situation is still false way out.

Be safe. Don’t spend time alone with people who show any of these warning signs and  remove the person from the situation that’s setting them off.

The most important thing to remember is don’t go it alone. Expose the matter to others as well.

Even verbal abuse left unchecked, unrestrained next tends to escalate and leads to real, unacceptable physical abuses.

11 Tips for Coping with Personal unresolved Stress

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference

Lord, make me an instrument of your peace,
Where there is hatred, let me sow love;
where there is injury, pardon;
where there is doubt, faith;
where there is despair, hope;
where there is darkness, light;
where there is sadness, joy;
O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console;
to be understood as to understand;
to be loved as to love.
For it is in giving that we receive;
it is in pardoning that we are pardoned;
and it is in dying that we are born to eternal life.

The prayers of Saint Francis of Assisi

1. First Concentrate on the present.   You cannot change the past, but you can work on having a better future
Don’t needlessly, continually  dwell on the past or worry about a future you cannot control. Have a positive and not a a negative, defeatist attitude now as well

2. Consider, Admit and deal with  your  past, present  problems one at a time.  First personally define, Write down those things that Bother you, do Number them, and do decide what you can and cannot do abut  them too . Prioritize as well Decide which ones are still important and which ones are no longer important to deal with.
If there are lots of items  you want to change, start by focusing on one or two of the most bothersome or dangerous ones. Don’t try to make too many changes all at once. Don’t merely lump your complaints,  problems together, it can make them seem overwhelming.

Remember
Anger and aggression are different. Anger is a temporary emotional state caused by frustration; while aggression is often an attempt to hurt a person or to destroy property.
Anger and aggression do not have to be dirty words. We must be careful to tell the difference between behavior that indicates emotional problems and behavior that is normal. Convert aggression to assertiveness, actions done in love as well.

3. Take positive action.  Do review all of your options, such as writing a letter of complaint to the right party, in detail reporting the matter so you do not have to have it repeated on you.
Make sure you have realistic expectations, goals, approaches too. Once you’ve decided what you want to do about a problem, act consistently quickly ,  firmly and follow up on it too.

4. Don’t   merely complain about your problems . Continually complaining is wasteful, and seriously for a stat don’t expect only others alone to resolve them, deal with them yourself .
Talk things over with your family and good friends. Look for the positive, possible, practical  solutions.

5. Occupy yourself and your mind.  Determine what you can and cannot do, how much time you should spend on it, also do go on with your life
Social interaction, alternative activities can help during a time of stress by not continually focusing on the problem

6. Don’t just blame the other people for your problems and their failure at  Resolving them – be an active part of the solution yourself if need be
Frustrated hostility will accomplish nothing and can only make and feel worse.

7. Exercise every day.
Go for a walk and concentrate on your surroundings instead of  just on your problems.

8. Maintain a daily routine. even if you are unemployed, retired, but do not get into a continual rut as well
I have often helped many a poor, depressed person, not by any medications, but by  simply by changing their daily normal activity routine, and next by taking them for a drive into the country, or taking them to see a good film, a comedy, or Giving them some good movies to watch, or by me taking them to a fine food restaurant, or by me taking them for a long  walk through unfamiliar surroundings.. and it worked.. it actually next had broke them out of their long term depression.

Can’t change positively   the person? try first changing their surroundings, environment temporarily?
A familiar pattern of  daily activates can decrease stress and increase your sense of security. Be willing to make a change once a while as well.

9. Avoid taking your problems to bed. Try to forgive and forget.
Clear your mind of the days thoughts so you can get a good night sleep.

10. Talk to your adequate health care provider, helper. Pick and choose, for remember there are still good and bad professionals.
She/he can help you find the right agency or person(s) to assist you in coping with stress.

With God on your side you will always be a winner

St. Francis of Assisi’s prayer in praise of God
You are holy, Lord, the only God,
and Your deeds are wonderful.
You are strong.
You are great.
You are the Most High.
You are Almighty.
You, Holy Father are King of heaven and earth.
You are Three and One, Lord God, all Good.
You are Good, all Good, supreme Good,
Lord God, living and true.
You are love. You are wisdom.
You are humility. You are endurance.
You are rest. You are peace.
You are joy and gladness.
You are justice and moderation.
You are all our riches, and You suffice for us.
You are beauty.
You are gentleness.
You are our protector.
You are our guardian and defender.
You are our courage. You are our haven and our hope.
You are our faith, our great consolation.
You are our eternal life, Great and Wonderful Lord,
God Almighty, Merciful Saviour.

Get  educated now, and know more on  how to effectively deal with abuses, Bullies and abusive persons today.
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If you are being verbally, physically, sexually abused do not hesitate to bring the matter into the open, tell your colleagues, friends and neighbors about it, your church pastors, elders too, congregation members, ands even do call the police. Public exposure and prosecution of the guilty persons always serves everyone’s best interests. 
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Is your church a safe place for victims of emotional abuse?

   
What about Bullying?
When any verbal remarks becomes hurtful, unkind to others, and too constant, it now has crossed the line of acceptance, decency and it does needs to stop, to be corrected. Bullying is intentional tormenting in physical, verbal, or psychological ways. It can range from hitting, shoving, name-calling, threats, and mocking to extorting money and one’s possessions. Some persons  bully by shunning others and spreading false rumors about them. Others use email, chat rooms, instant messages, social networking websites, and text messages to taunt others or try hurt their feelings.  It’s important to take bullying seriously for effects can be serious and affect ones’ sense of self-worth and future relationships. In severe cases, bullying has contributed to tragedies, such as school shootings.
Take it seriously also if you even  hear that the bullying will get worse if the bully finds out that your child has  told others. Many states have bullying laws and policies.   if you have serious concerns about your child’s safety, you may need to contact legal authorities. Do not hesitate to expose it too. Verbal abuse  unstopped, unchecked unrestrained often next turns to physical abuse, wrongful violence.

(Mat 18:1 KJV)  At the same time came the disciples unto Jesus, saying, Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?
2  And Jesus called a little child unto him, and set him in the midst of them,
3  And said, Verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of heaven.
4  Whosoever therefore shall humble himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of heaven.
5  And whoso shall receive one such little child in my name receiveth me.
6  But whoso shall offend one of these little ones which believe in me, it were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and that he were drowned in the depth of the sea.
7  Woe unto the world because of offences! for it must needs be that offences come; but woe to that man by whom the offence cometh!
8  Wherefore if thy hand or thy foot offend thee, cut them off, and cast them from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life halt or maimed, rather than having two hands or two feet to be cast into everlasting fire.
9  And if thine eye offend thee, pluck it out, and cast it from thee: it is better for thee to enter into life with one eye, rather than having two eyes to be cast into hell fire.
10  Take heed that ye despise not one of these little ones; for I say unto you, That in heaven their angels do always behold the face of my Father which is in heaven.
11  For the Son of man is come to save that which was lost.
 

Why Do They even  Hate Each Other? In this society, too many people have the false expectation that they will love others and thus next will get along well with everyone, even in  in their family, Church, community, work. They always expect to feel positive toward their parents, brothers, sisters, spouse and children. This is unrealistic  Most people, themselves however, have at least some times when they don’t feel very loving toward   others. Some persons are even born  really bad, or have become really bad persons now too.

Relationships often can be are close, both emotionally and physically, and thus even very intense.  Because they are   closer at home, communities, church too, the related  members have a greater power than anyone else to make other members feel angry, sad, confused — and loving. This is as true for children and adolescents as it is for adults.

Why Do some persons Bully? They  bully for a variety of reasons. Sometimes they bully because they need a victim  to try to falsely, selfishly, sinfully   make themselves feel more important, popular, or in control. Often they do bully, torment others because that’s the way they’ve been treated in the past too. They even may think their behavior is normal because they come from families or other settings where everyone regularly gets angry, shouts, or calls others names.

 Forced submissions by adults, particularly in the church, or elsewhere, can often rightfully be taken as bullying, enslavement and is still unacceptable too.

Why do we hear of the Russian Mafia, and the Asian Gangs now more increasing, because their parents have neglected them while they were busy trying to get rich, richer.

(James 4:1 KJV)  From whence come wars and fightings among you? come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members?
2  Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not.
3  Ye ask, and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts.
4  Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God.
5  Do ye think that the scripture saith in vain, The spirit that dwelleth in us lusteth to envy?
6  But he giveth more grace. Wherefore he saith, God resisteth the proud, but giveth grace unto the humble.
7  Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you.
8  Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded.
9  Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness.
10  Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.
11  Speak not evil one of another, brethren. He that speaketh evil of his brother, and judgeth his brother, speaketh evil of the law, and judgeth the law: but if thou judge the law, thou art not a doer of the law, but a judge.
12  There is one lawgiver, who is able to save and to destroy: who art thou that judgest another?
13  Go to now, ye that say, To day or to morrow we will go into such a city, and continue there a year, and buy and sell, and get gain:
14  Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away.
15  For that ye ought to say, If the Lord will, we shall live, and do this, or that.
16  But now ye rejoice in your boastings: all such rejoicing is evil.
17  Therefore to him that knoweth to do good, and doeth it not, to him it is sin.
5:1  Go to now, ye rich men, weep and howl for your miseries that shall come upon you.
2  Your riches are corrupted, and your garments are motheaten.
3  Your gold and silver is cankered; and the rust of them shall be a witness against you, and shall eat your flesh as it were fire. Ye have heaped treasure together for the last days.

(Prov 22:6 KJV)  Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it